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|Tue, 10-04-2005 - 3:16pm|
I wasn't really sure where to come to ask this question, so I figured I'd ask on here.
My boyfriend is 30 and has an 8 yr old daughter. I haven't met her yet because I think that we should be together quite a while before she meets me. My BF and his ex (mother of this daughter) broke up over a year ago and it was really hard on their daughter. Her mother yells at her and blames him for everything (even calls him names in front of their daughter). I just think that she has so much to deal with already, and I don't want to come into her life unless we're sure that i'll be there for good.
On the other hand, I am in my 20s (a lil younger than him) and I'm the complete opposite of his ex. I'm very optimistic, I work with children in my job, I adore children. He thinks that my involvement in her life would be positive because we have the same attitude and because I'm younger, have a younger perspective that could be of help to her as she goes through these hard times. And I would love to be that for her. I would love to do things with her, and help her with her homework (she is in French and I am bilingual).
How do we go about doing this? And when is the right time? We have been casually dating since February and have been together since June. I would really appreciate any imput on this. I just don't want her mom to feel like I'm taking over, and I don't want the daughter to feel any negative feelings like i'm getting in the way. I want this to be a smooth transition and a positive one as well.