Boy crazy!

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Registered: 02-16-2012
Boy crazy!
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Fri, 06-21-2013 - 1:56pm

During my DD's slumber party, I was suprised at how many of the girls seemd "boy crazy"- lots of talk about who was the cutest in their class, cute guys on TV, etc. I've maybe heard my daughter talk about a boy being cute maybe a few times but certainly not as often as some of these girls were. Is it normal for girls this young (9-11 age range) to be so boy crazy? I'm not ready for all that yet!

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Registered: 09-12-2003
Sun, 06-23-2013 - 8:32am

DS is 9 almost 10 and zero interest but other kids both boys and girls in his class have been talking "boyfriends" and "girlfriends" since like last year. Blame some of the parents for encouraging it too much. Kids start things early enough but we don't have to add to fire, kwim? I'm trying to remember back to the stoneages when I was that age at what point we started reading tiger beat and hanging posters of cuties on the walls. Thinking closer to 11 then 9 but things were so different. Doesn't surprise me to hear of 9 year olds being boy crazy, think of what pop culture messages they are getting but doesn't mean we can't as parents curve it some.

Think it might be a good opening for that conversation in age appropriate language about liking boys and what limits you put on things at this age. Earlier we talk to our kids more likely they will come to us with guestions then if we just wait for them to come to us they may never until something happens. Kids mature at different rates too so just because classmates are boy crazy doesn't mean your DD is or wants to be. Might just have added in so and so cute so she didn't feel left out and even more reason to have some kind of boy talk so she knows its also ok not to be into boys yet.

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Registered: 07-26-1999
Mon, 06-24-2013 - 1:59pm
I think it really depends. My 6 year old isn't boy crazy exactly, but she often says stuff like "I love xxx, he's my boyfriend and I'm going to marry him" Now my 18 year old, you wouldn't know she knew what a boy was until about 14, and even then, I very rarely heard much from her or her friends about boys and how cute they were, she didn't have her first boyfriend til 6 months ago and had only went on 2 or 3 dates before that. I think its partly personality, partly some influence by parents and peers.
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Registered: 06-27-2006
Mon, 06-24-2013 - 6:59pm
I have to say that yes, I think it is normal for them to be 'boy crazy' at this age. It is getting younger and younger all the time. Hang in there, Mom. Keep the lines of communication open.