help with a difficult decision

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Registered: 09-10-2009
help with a difficult decision
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Tue, 11-17-2009 - 10:58am

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Registered: 05-30-2008
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 5:45pm
Welcome! I would say yes you were right in your decision, after all it is your decision whether or not to let her go. And I would say no in going into detail about why. Financials is an adult subject and IMHO kids shouldn't be burdened with adult subjects, kwim? If she is acting okay about the party, chances are she is okay with it. I do agree with you that an invite on Monday for a RSVP on Wednesday for a party on Saturday is short notice.
Parenting is a tough job, but you are doing a great job! Especially if your DD took her no without a fight. Keep up the good work.
I hope you make yourself home over here, and we can get to know you and your wonderful family.
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Registered: 09-10-2009
Tue, 11-17-2009 - 9:31pm

Thank you for your reply to my question.i really didn't get into too much detail with her about money except that right now it was one of the main reasons why she could not go.i do not believe in the "because i said so"stance.i like to be honest with my children .i find things go a lot easier when i'm not tip toeing around their why and i just give it to them staright(in an age appropriate way of course that does not go into details that they may not understand and should not know). i feel that if i am honest with them then i will be setting a good example.i do not think that saying "because I said so"or trying to dodge

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Registered: 12-12-2007
Wed, 11-18-2009 - 9:20am

Hi there and welcome to the board! :o)

That was pretty short notice for the party. Sometimes I think there is no good solution. If the invites go out too early, people forget. If they go out too late, people are already booked. I am glad that your daughter was so easy going about the no. I have talked light finances with my kids before. If they want something at the store, sometimes I will say no. They want to know why and I will say something about a careful grocery budget this week, and we don't have enough for extras.

A friend of mine buys toys and kid things from the clearance sections and keeps them on a "toy shelf." That way she always has a gift to give at a birthday party. I haven't gotten that organized yet, but I would like to. Then she is always able to make it to party's for kids whose birthdays are so close to the holidays.









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Registered: 09-10-2009
Wed, 11-18-2009 - 1:37pm

Thank you for your welcome.