My child is getting picked on........
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|Wed, 11-02-2005 - 8:57am|
My Joshua is 5 yrs. old in kindegarten. He did great in pre-school and he made a couple good friends there. He is very animated, very smart, but is very strong-willed. He likes to do things his way. He is also very enthusiastic about 'everything.' Anyway...
last week, I went to his parent visitation day and he did pretty good. He followed the rules, sat still, and for the most part, what I could tell, paid attention. These are our biggest concerns with him ---- being able to follow the directions/rules/sit still, etc. I did notice that he is either not paying attention to the question, or not comprehending correctly. He likes to take part and answer questions the teacher asks, but doesn't really answer the correct 'way.'
Last week, when I picked him up from school, he said that during 'circle-time' a boy hit him in the fore-head and pushed him down on the rug they were sitting on and called him 'dumb.' Josh said the teaher put the other child in 'immediate time-out.' (They have a stop-light type thing and when they get 3 warnings, they are on the 'red' and get a time-out). Since the teacher did not notify me of this herself, I decided not to make a big deal out of it and told Joshua "you are NOT dumb.' and to try to ignore those kids and that he knows what it feels like when someone does that to you, so to make sure he doesn't do that to other kids.
This a.m. a boy in the neighborhood (probably about 8 or so), came to me and said a boy that sits behind Josh on the bus was calling him 'dumb' and making fun of him. (this boy is in the 8 yr. olds class). I thanked him for telling me and asked Josh about it. He said that it was happening, but didn't tell the bus-driver. Again, he didn't seem to make a big deal about it, so I just kind of repeated what I told him last week about the other child in his class.
My plan is to ask the nice boy that approached me today how things are going on the bus and to please tell me when things happen, and to just monitor the situation for awhile.
Am I doing the right thing not saying anything to anyone? I was teased like crazy from about 2nd grade to 9th grade and it was a horrible school experience for me. I even brought the insecurity with me through adult-hood and just recently have started to get over it and not take things too personally. I don't think I imunate (sp?) this with myself around him at all; and I don't want to. I just want to keep what happened to me from happening to him during his school career. Shoot -- he just got started and that would be awful! I also don't want HIM to turn into a 'bully.'
Any comments, advice, been-there-done-that's are welcome.