No friends???

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Registered: 09-15-2004
No friends???
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Tue, 09-13-2005 - 1:20pm

My ds AJ just started 1st grade last Tuesday. While he did get off to a rather rocky start, he has improved day by day.

 

 

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 2:42pm
IMO it is never too early too speak to a teacher. It can, however, be too late. So I would say, if your gut is telling you that it is time...then it is time.
With so many kids in the class, she may not realize how it is affecting him. You are your childs voice and if you solve his problems early (or before they become problems) he will be better off.
That's my 2 cents worth ;)
Good luck,
Lisa

Lisa ~ Mom to Bryce and Tia

 

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Registered: 09-15-2004
Tue, 09-13-2005 - 8:01pm

Thanks Lisa,


I wanted to get someone elses perspective and I do have to admit, my gut is now screaming "time to talk". I do feel she will be open to me, we've had an easy time discussing AJ's days when I pick him up after school.

 

 

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 1:26pm

hi....
I agree,time to talk to the teacher...

you can also talk to one of the playground monitors, and ask if they have noticed anything, they can be very helpfull...

good luck...

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Registered: 07-13-2005
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 3:37pm
When I ready your question, I automatically thought about Ben. He never mentioned playing with anyone and told me one day noone liked him and he didn't have any friends. Well, the next day, I went and talked to his teacher because my heart is breaking. He also mentioned sitting by himself at lunch. I couldn't believe that, I was so sad for him. After talking to the teacher, I found out the rest of the story....everybody wanted to be his friend, he played with everyone all the time, if one group was doing something he wanted to do he would play with them. She said his problem was finding out who he wanted to play with!! Then she had asked him why he sat alone at lunch and he said he couldn't stand to watch the other children eat because they chewed with their mouths full and it made him want to puke! She also said that when he was saying that he had jelly from ear to ear but he can't see his own face to be made sick!!! So, I said all of that to say talk to the teacher!! Maybe she can share some insight or help him to get involved....Let us know how he is doing!!!!
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Registered: 09-15-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 4:36pm
Thanks everyone for your insight and experiences.

 

 

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 5:01pm

<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<,,hugs>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>....

make sure the teacher is aware of how this is making your son feel... she should not be allowing this to continue..there are other ways of dealing with classroom "things".... seperation and exclusion for is not OK!!!!

just a note... ds is in gr 2.. he works much better with girls than boys, if he sits beside boys(friends ect..) he's a total bug and pain in the butt...so he's group with 2 girls and the teacher...lol..lol(he was not impressed!!!)and the teacher changes their "group" seating every month...

good luck... <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>.

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Registered: 09-15-2004
Wed, 09-14-2005 - 6:15pm

You have all been so wondeful in your support of our dilemma.


I spoke with his teacher this afternoon. Actually began the conversation with something else entirely, and she said "oh, btw...I moved AJ back into the group...he's been doing so well and now that the class is settled and permanent classes assigned, we're better organized. Needless to say I was very happy to hear that. She said AJ did have to pull a warning card (talking again), but that overall he did very well and she even told him how much she appreciated his behavior.

 

 

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Registered: 07-13-2005
Thu, 09-15-2005 - 9:29am
That is great!!!!! Maybe now everything will be positive!! My heart was aching for him when the other boy moved away from him. Keep us posted on how he is doing. Hopefully today will also be a great day for him!
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Registered: 01-13-2005
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 10:07am

It's great when things work out. It's hard for us to understand what our kids go through, the best thing is always communication. Talking to your kids, talking to his/her teachers. My wife and I keep in contact with my son's teacher all the time. We want to know how he's doing, interacting, and behaving.

His teacher uses the flipping card method. There's always been a problem with kids in his class talking out of turn. This year (with the card flipping method) many of the kids that were problems flipped cards early and had to explain to their parents why they talked out of turn. This is extremely effective and gets the problem out in the open. She has total control over her class. It's been the most rewarding year so far for my son, because it's a better learning environment. He loves his teacher because he's learning more.

Well that's my 2-cents worth.