Trouble Making Friends

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2011
Trouble Making Friends
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Wed, 07-27-2011 - 8:50am

Hi everyone,

My oldest son is 10 and going into the 5th grade.

Faith

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.~ Dr Seuss

Community Leader
Registered: 06-27-2006
Wed, 07-27-2011 - 11:53am

Community Leader
Registered: 06-27-2006
Wed, 07-27-2011 - 12:03pm

Wow. I just posted a shoot-from-the-hip great (if I might say so myself) response, and I guess iVillage ate it. :(

Anyway...

I know it has to be sad for him to lose his best friend to a move.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-08-2011
Thu, 07-28-2011 - 12:47pm
Thanks for your reply! He has seen his friend a couple of times since school has been out but the visits are getting fewer and farther between. There are no team sports at his school but he was involved in the choir last year and he seemed to enjoy that. Hopefully he'll be able to a make a few friends through that. Play dates are always a good idea- I just worry about stepping in too much at this age, KWIM? I'm pretty shy too so I know where he is coming from. It can be hard to put yourself out there!
Faith

Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.~ Dr Seuss

iVillage Member
Registered: 07-07-2011
Mon, 08-01-2011 - 3:28pm
Poor kid, that's really hard :(

You should tell him to take a look around during lunch/recess the first few days of school and see who looks lonely. I bet there are other boys that would like to have a friend, and if he looks around he might find one. You could also ask his teacher who might be a good fit for him and see if she can't put the two of them together when the opportunity arises. It's hard to put yourself out there, I really hope he can find some new friends this year.