What to tell dd?

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What to tell dd?
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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 1:10pm

I really don't know if this is the right place to ask this question or not... in fact I don't know where to ask....
DD, age 8 in the second grade begged me last night to tell her the truth about Santa. I didn't know what to tell her. I said, 'what do you think?" and she said, "I just don't know, I just want to know the truth, please... some of the kids in school are saying that there isn't one, but you've always told me that there is. Please tell me the truth. Is there a Santa Clause who brings me all of the presents?" I told her to ask her dad and she went into where dh was watching t.v. and said, "daddy, is there a Santa?" and dh said, "yeah, hey can you get me a glass of water?"
I hate the fact that she came to me for the truth and I didn't give it to her. Please any thoughts?

Judy

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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 2:05pm

Well if it were me, I would explain that at one point in time there was a real St. Nick, and that as parents we keep his memory alive by playing Santa, but that there is no longer a real Santa. If she is getting the truth at school and she is asking for the truth, give it to her. We all find out sooner or later that he is not real. It is a sad day when or kids stop believing but if they know the truth and we keep lying to them what is that helping?


Just my honest opinion.

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Mon, 12-12-2005 - 9:56pm

I agree...she sounds like she is ready.

I would definitely go at it like there was the St Nicholas who did such and such and he was such a wonderful figure that we honor his memory by continuing to make the same magic for the worlds children.

Then I would ask her if she wanted to participate more in the 'magic' by helping toys for tots or other giving opportunities.

Susan

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Registered: 11-13-2005
Thu, 12-15-2005 - 8:32pm


Hi Judy!
There comes a time when every parent will have to face this question and it usually catches us by surprise - lol. Dh and I ran into this exact situation with our son a few months ago. He came to me and our conversation played out quite a bit like yours. He specifically asked me if Santa was real and when I asked him what he thought, he just asked me to tell him the truth so I did but made sure I emphasized the beauty and fun of believing in Santa. Then we went online and looked up the tradition of Santa, how it started, how it differs from country to country, etc. We had a lot of fun learning (together) about it and it made him feel a lot better.

It sounds like you're quite upset with yourself over this ~ maybe you and dh could talk about it together and decide what to do from here? I'd be interested to hear how it goes!

Best of luck!
~*Melinda*~