What wld you do if the principal did....

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Registered: 09-28-2005
What wld you do if the principal did....
Wed, 09-28-2005 - 10:30pm

Hi...I found out today that my nine year (learning disabled) child was sent to the principals office (this is not the first time) for chasing a girl and pulling on her shirt and lunch pail because she was bothering him....it was more in fun that he chased her...he likes to chase girls.

However, he was sent to the principals office, and was made to sit outside her office window (in 90+ degree sun blazing on him) on a chair facing her window and repeating to himself that he must keep his hands to himself. For how long I do not know yet, I just found this out tonight, but my son said he missed the rest of recess and part of his first lesson. He mentioned his neck was burning hot. She later came out and told him that he could move into the shade. Gee...how thoughtful.

Now, I know my son will probably think twice about getting into trouble, he used to not mind going into the principals office before, but this is a new principal. However, he does not really understand the consequences of getting into trouble and how bad it is to chase other kids if they do not want to be hassled with.

SO....what would you do tomorrow morning when you drop your son off at school...would you complain.

Many thanks!

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Registered: 02-02-2004
Thu, 09-29-2005 - 3:40pm

hi...were you informed of this "issue" from a teacher/student/parent?

I would talk to the principal.. it they didn't inform you, they should have..
I would just "ask" not "complain" about what happened, then I would explain about my child's LD's and that he really didn't understand what he did wrong, that this type of punishment doesn't work for him.... bla...bla....bla...)

good luck..

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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 09-30-2005 - 11:39am
I'm sorry for chiming in late. I hope things are going better at school now.
Did you talk to the principal? I would definately talk to her, if you haven't already. I think the principal or teacher should have informed you of the situation (instead of your child). Maybe you and the principal can come up with a suitable punishment for situations in the future ~ and discuss situations that you feel don't require punishments too.
Please let us know how things work out.
Lisa ~ mom to Tia (9/28/98) and Bryce (10/18/02)

Lisa ~ Mom to Bryce and Tia


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Registered: 10-13-2004
Fri, 10-07-2005 - 7:03pm

coming out of lurkdom....

I can totally relate because I've got an autistic child in grade 2 of a mainstream school. And I'd definately say something. I'd be reminding the principal that a visual social story is the solution.

The teacher shouldn't punish a disabled child if they don't quite 'get' the rules and/or social skills. They must work on teaching them the rules instead.

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Registered: 04-04-2005
Mon, 10-10-2005 - 8:01am