13 yr old girl's best friend bulling her
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13 yr old girl's best friend bulling her
| Tue, 12-04-2007 - 3:49pm |
My daughter has a close group of 5 girlfriends.
| Tue, 12-04-2007 - 3:49pm |
My daughter has a close group of 5 girlfriends.
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I was watching a documentry on this just a couple of weeks ago. It seems girls do this all the time. It starts out looking like they are playing. As the bullying gets worse even the teachers on the playgrounds couldn't tell one student was really bulling the other. I don't know why it's dominant in girls. Having worked in a school system IMO when the child that is bulling gets stood up too or humiliated in front of the others they stop. The only thing is your dd has to be strong enough to take the consequenses, I have seen things blow up on occasion. I would have a talk with the guidance counseler telling her to keep this confidental, usually schools have confidentiality clauses and she if she can observe this
Believe it or not 8th grade!
This stuff happens all the time around here...the bullying takes all forms, I can't stand it. Last year, when my youngest DD was in the sixth grade, was the worst. It's really hard to know what to do, cuz you definitely don't want to make it worse...I got to the end of my mental rope mid year and called the principal. I made it very clear from the start that I wasn't pointing fingers and also that I wasn't suggesting that my own DD was an angel. I just told her things were getting out of control, cited examples w/out names...and said, this is their last year before going to the junior high, it should be special, not brutal. So she tells me thanks for the call, that she's not sure what she can do if anything...but lo and behold, she ended up holding a small assembly...just sixth grade girls...talking frankly, letting them all talk too, and it really helped. The bullies may have gotten scared, the bullied felt empowered, etc.
Like someone else said, it's good to encourage your DD to move away from negative people and pursue other friendships. I know it's hard not to do something yourself...I've wanted to wring several little necks over the years, but didn't...
All the best to you and your DD.
When my DS was taking karate, I remember the instructor talking about bullying.
I was standing in line today at Joann Etc. which was running right alongside the magazines. There infront of me was a mag called Discovery Girl, I think that is what it was called. Anyway it is for girls 8 and up (I think) and right on the front it said something about "frenemies" I think that is how it was spelled. I knew immediatly what it would be about and i thought of this thread. I didn't have the time to read the whole article, but what I did read was very good. I thought that was a very good term for exactly what these kind of girls are.
You know now that I think about it I think it said these were excerpts from a book titled Frenemies. Might be interesting to read.
yes i think thats the term they used on the documentary lol but with my memory i cant be sure but i have heard that term . did'nt know there was a book about it.
I would love to read it. I wonder why these girls are so mean?
I'd rather be sailing
God determines who walks into your life...it's up to you to decide,who you let walk away,who you let stay,and who you refuse to let go
Sorry I'm so late chiming in here, I've been busy baking!
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8th grade and age 13 seems to be the age for this.
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