14 year old boy and his hormones?

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14 year old boy and his hormones?
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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 2:36pm

My son is 14 and we are having cell phone issues. Other than the usual issues that he is on it all the time and igonores the rest of the family. He has been caught texting dirty messages to various girlfriends and was grounded. (Didn't learn lesson) Was caught asking a girl to BE WITH him. grounded another week. (Didn't learn lesson) Now he has been caught asking a girlfriend to send him a picture in her bra and panties, looks like she sent one in swim suit. (obviously didn't learn lesson) None of which were the same girl and none of the girls seemed to be offended by the questions he asked.

My husband wants be to get rid of texting totally, but I feel that this is the only way teens make conversation now day. Am I totally taking away his life if he can't text or am I just being a push over.

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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 5:49pm

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We don't have texting at all and our son, 14 in Oct (hs freshman) doesn't seem to mind. To be honest, the cell phone is for emergancy use only and not for common place conversation purposes. He can email friends (no IM or myspace allowed) or he can talk with his friends when he sees them at school.

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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 5:51pm
Glad to see you have taken the texting and picture messaging off the phone. That was a must in my opinion.
But take a look at the bigger picture. That needs to be addressed. He is pretty young and he is already treating girls in an offensive manner. That is just not right, not only is it inappropriate it is downright insulting. It doesn't matter if the girls are finding it offensive or not, it is to women in general. And if they aren't finding this offensive at 14 what else won't they find offensive. I think you or his dad needs to sit down and have a real talk with him and tell him the way he should be acting and how he should be respecting girls and women in general.
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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 7:23pm

I went to hs in the 70s, was in multiple, multiple extracurriculars, drove when I turned 16 on horrible country roads - all with no cell phone!

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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 7:34pm

I agree there needs to be some talking here

What does he(child of OP) hope to accomplish-ok, I mean SERIOUSLY? I would worry he is going to turn off these girls to the point where they will never accept a date with him.

I think there is some degree of 'flirting' when a relationship is in place but this sounds like random girls from what you describe. I wouldn't be thrilled if he was asking a regular GF to send pics of herself in bra and panty but I would find it easier to accept than doing this with multiple girls

And, yes, work on talking about sex. I have 3 boys and DH was clearly not going to approach the subject-and, even if he did, I wanted to get MY values in.

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Tue, 09-04-2007 - 8:07pm

"I would worry he is going to turn off these girls to the point where they will never accept a date with him."


OR he's going to find himself only seeing the kind of girl who is with every boy in town, thus opening himself up to a host of STDs and no decent girl is going to want to date him.


The random girl thing bothers me too... as you said windrush, I would be less upset if he were having these conversations with a g/f of some months rather than random girls.

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