14 year old daughter asking for therapy

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14 year old daughter asking for therapy
Mon, 08-13-2012 - 9:23pm

Hello all. I am new to this board. I have 2 daughters, one who will be 13 tomorrow and my oldest is 14. My girls are both very good, respectful, sweet teenagers who do very well in school. (Do I sound naive, or what? HA!) A little background: Their father and I have been divorced for over 10 years and we share custody of them. We live only 4 miles apart so it's very easy to go back and forth. We also are very cordial to eachother for the most part. He is remarried to a woman that my children call "evil". From what I gather from them, she is, in a word, disrespectful, though, not necessarly "evil". I am not remarried but have been in 2 serious relationships since my divorce... one is still my current boyfriend.  

Ok.... So my 14 year old dd has asked me on multiple occasions if she can seek therapy. I have asked her if something is bothering her or if she is ok, and she always says, yes, she is fine, just wants someone she can tell everything to and know that no one will ever know. My girls and I have a very open, trusting relationship and I guess I thought I would always be that person for her. She is at her dad's tonight and she just texted me again, asking for therapy.  I know that some of her friends see a counselor and I'm wondering if it's just one of those things she wants to do because her friends do it, or if I should take her request seriously and look into a therapist for her.  

Guess I'm just wondering what you all would do if it were your teen daughter.