My 14 year old daughter brought up the belly piercing. I reacted negatively--and strongly. She said, Daddy would still love me, which cut through me. You should be glad your husband stands with you. I'd stall if I were you. She wasn't serious--that is my dd. But I remember the ear piercing pestering at our school. Most parents made them wait--I think they can live with let's think this over for awhile and bring it up in the future. My 13 year old goes to acting camp and wanted double pierced earrings because the older girls did. I let her do it. But the belly button and tatoos are really a sexual thing, as I understand it. At least I think they are. So, I'd try to hold off if my daughter wanted it. On the other hand, to be really honest, she is having a little weight problem around the tummy which hurts her emotionally and me big time because I know what she must be going through. The happiness rate for an overweight teen is reportedly equal to that of a cancer patient with chemo therapy (courtesy of the Today Show). So, if she got thin, I might be so happy for her, I'd let her do it in celebration. But I'd try to hold her off for sure or dissaude her. But do take a moment to be thankful she has the figure to want it. My daughter's bf is thin and my daughter said yes but her parents are. Look at my parents. I felt like going on a fast. Well, good luck. It's nice to weigh in--no pun--when you have dds the same age.
If you are very against piercings then absolutely stick to your decision. I also do not believe in following the crowd.
Having said that, my DD got her belly pierced just before her 16th bday. She went through a punk/goth phase that started when she was about 13 and asked for her belly pierced and a tattoo and we said NO WAY. She has a total of 7 piercings in her ears and those were more than enough. She wouldn't let up so we told her if she still wanted the belly piercing when she was 16 then one of her parents would take her because safety was an absolute must. And she needs to wait until she is 18 if she wants a tattoo. She didn't change her mind and with the agreement that this was the LAST piercing she got I took her. She was one of the first and following the crowd had nothing to do with any decision or her part or ours. After a lot of research, the body piercing parlor we went to was very professional and as Daddio said it was treated like a medical procedure.
My DD is a petite thing and I must admit that the peircing looks very nice on her. It didn't change her at all and she wasn't flashy with it. She took very good care of it and no one knew it was there unless she was wearing a bathing suit or it peaked out from under a shirt once and a while. She's changed a lot since then, DD is 17 now and has hung up her goth clothes for a more mature, sophisticated style.
Well, her 18th bday is rolling around and she has made it clear that she is counting down the days until she can get her tattoo. She wants a feminine one on her lower back so it can be easily hidden. DH has told her that he would take her just before her 18th bday as an xmas gift if she lets her parents be involved in helping her choose the tattoo parlor and the tattoo. She has agreed.
Now, if your DD doesn't let up on this, it might interest her to know that not everyone has good experiences with this piercing. My niece's body actually rejected her piercing and after 6 months it literally was pushed out because her body extracted it like it would a splinter and she was left with an unattractive scar that was very red during swimsuit season. This piercing is a wound that takes over a year to heal. No swimming or spa for 3 months. Your not supposed to change the piercing for 3-6 months and it needs to be cleaned 3 times a day. Just something for her to think about. Good luck with this.
The question to me is not so much whether a person is too young to have a piercing but its about why they want that piercing. Is it about a personal expression? Is the piercing about making a statement about who she is? Or is it because all her friends are doing it?
There's a difference between making a fashion statement and being a fashion victim. I've always tried to emphasize with my dd that her clothes, her hair etc should be an expression of herself and her values and not about what everyone else is wearing or what some magazine says you should wear.
So what are her reasons for getting a belly button piercing? Is she intending on embracing some sort of alternative, artistic lifestyle? When my younger sister was a teen she was into alot of the new wave/punk fashions and although often her appearance was a bit ...ummm... unconventional, my mom never made an issue out of it because she knew it was very much who my sister was. She was and remains very artistic and creative and on the edge of music and fashion and art and this was her way of expressing that. So how about asking your dd WHY she wants to do this because hopefully its not all about following the pack.
You know, the good thing about piercings is that once the jewelry is removed, the hole will close and if its in a place like the belly button, nobody will ever even know.
I so totally agree. If my dd could answer meon teh questions" why do you want this?" I would do my best to listen with a totally open mind as I have in the past and I will againin the future. BUT she has yet to answer that and since the first day of off and on again discussion, she seems to have dropped it but a few comments which I have quietly ignored. There are bigger battles to be fought, like the boy who is 17 who is wanting to spend time with her...
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If you are very against piercings then absolutely stick to your decision. I also do not believe in following the crowd.
Having said that, my DD got her belly pierced just before her 16th bday. She went through a punk/goth phase that started when she was about 13 and asked for her belly pierced and a tattoo and we said NO WAY. She has a total of 7 piercings in her ears and those were more than enough. She wouldn't let up so we told her if she still wanted the belly piercing when she was 16 then one of her parents would take her because safety was an absolute must. And she needs to wait until she is 18 if she wants a tattoo. She didn't change her mind and with the agreement that this was the LAST piercing she got I took her. She was one of the first and following the crowd had nothing to do with any decision or her part or ours. After a lot of research, the body piercing parlor we went to was very professional and as Daddio said it was treated like a medical procedure.
My DD is a petite thing and I must admit that the peircing looks very nice on her. It didn't change her at all and she wasn't flashy with it. She took very good care of it and no one knew it was there unless she was wearing a bathing suit or it peaked out from under a shirt once and a while. She's changed a lot since then, DD is 17 now and has hung up her goth clothes for a more mature, sophisticated style.
Well, her 18th bday is rolling around and she has made it clear that she is counting down the days until she can get her tattoo. She wants a feminine one on her lower back so it can be easily hidden. DH has told her that he would take her just before her 18th bday as an xmas gift if she lets her parents be involved in helping her choose the tattoo parlor and the tattoo. She has agreed.
Now, if your DD doesn't let up on this, it might interest her to know that not everyone has good experiences with this piercing. My niece's body actually rejected her piercing and after 6 months it literally was pushed out because her body extracted it like it would a splinter and she was left with an unattractive scar that was very red during swimsuit season. This piercing is a wound that takes over a year to heal. No swimming or spa for 3 months. Your not supposed to change the piercing for 3-6 months and it needs to be cleaned 3 times a day. Just something for her to think about. Good luck with this.
The question to me is not so much whether a person is too young to have a piercing but its about why they want that piercing. Is it about a personal expression? Is the piercing about making a statement about who she is? Or is it because all her friends are doing it?
There's a difference between making a fashion statement and being a fashion victim. I've always tried to emphasize with my dd that her clothes, her hair etc should be an expression of herself and her values and not about what everyone else is wearing or what some magazine says you should wear.
So what are her reasons for getting a belly button piercing? Is she intending on embracing some sort of alternative, artistic lifestyle? When my younger sister was a teen she was into alot of the new wave/punk fashions and although often her appearance was a bit ...ummm... unconventional, my mom never made an issue out of it because she knew it was very much who my sister was. She was and remains very artistic and creative and on the edge of music and fashion and art and this was her way of expressing that. So how about asking your dd WHY she wants to do this because hopefully its not all about following the pack.
You know, the good thing about piercings is that once the jewelry is removed, the hole will close and if its in a place like the belly button, nobody will ever even know.
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Your sister sounds a lot like my dd15.
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