14 yo dd with no girlfriends

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Registered: 01-06-2005
14 yo dd with no girlfriends
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Mon, 02-07-2011 - 5:34am

hi, I am new to the board and I am very worried about my 14 yo dd.

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Registered: 03-18-2004
Mon, 02-07-2011 - 8:37am

My gut feeling is depression, possibly exasperated by bullying at school. If it is depression it is NOTHING you did or did not do. The best thing you can do for your DD is get her some councilling.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Mon, 02-07-2011 - 11:34am

I also agree--get her to counseling right away.

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 12:08am

Your daughter has no friends.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 7:37am

Make her a schedule she can check off to shower every day and brush her teeth morning and night. She has to do it in an established routine or it is not going to get done.

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Registered: 04-13-2010
Tue, 02-08-2011 - 8:56pm

I also have a dd who will be 14 this week, so my heart hurts for your dd. My dd has been in competitive cheer since 2nd grade and even though she is in middle school our school does not offer cheer or sports and we are K-12. My dd has always love cheer..BUT! She has never really identified with the other girls in cheer. My dd loves the sport (and yes it should be a sport!) She isn't in to hair/make up/nails and the latest fashions since the school she attends doesn't really promote this type of environment. It sounds as if there are several issues at hand for your dd, but it does sound as if she is depressed, and since she has made comments regarding suicide she needs to be evaluated, ASAP! I have a son who several years back told me he could no longer see the sunshine and spent some time as an inpatient. Some teens/children suffer from depression and it needs treatment if this is the case.

As far as the sexting? if you know this to be a fact, it does need to come to a stop. You really need to have a sit down with your daughter, this is serious and what is sent to other boys is out there forever. Also the boy she is *dating* seems to be taking advantage of her as well, and this needs to be nipped in the bud as well. The sexting

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Tue, 02-08-2011 - 10:50pm

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Wed, 02-09-2011 - 8:27am

maybe the girls don't like her because of the way she is with guys.

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Registered: 11-21-2004
Wed, 02-09-2011 - 9:30am

when I started reading this my first thought was get this girl to a counselor and possibly even family counseling quick.

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 02-09-2011 - 8:15pm

Yep, totally agree with this post. She needs counseling. To the OP: sharing that history does NOT in any way make a connection between what your DD is dealing with now and what happened in her early childhood. Stop beating yourself up!

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Registered: 05-27-1998
Wed, 02-09-2011 - 8:29pm

First of all, I totally get the trach thing. My niece has a rare congenital

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