15 year old daughter in realtionship with same boy for over 2 years
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15 year old daughter in realtionship with same boy for over 2 years
| Thu, 04-14-2011 - 10:55am |
I have a mature for her age 15 year old daughter who has been dating the same boy for over two years. (She hit puberty at 10 so she acts more like a 17 or 18 year old most of the time) Most advice I have gotten is forbid it.
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I don't think there is much you can really do about it--you can't make her like other people when she really likes this kid.
Thanks for your post!
Sue
I wouldn't worry. I know you can't help it because no one wants their kid in an intense, long relationship at 15, especially when you know that one of them is going to get their heart broken sooner or later. Relationships at this age just don't last, so when you talk to your DD, do try to work that in there. She won't like hearing it, but it will prepare her for the eventual break-up, either when they go to college or when one decides to dump the other.
As far as the "high school dating experience goes," well, I think that's overrated and very often, doesn't even exist. Lots of perfectly healthy, happy teens don't date at all in high school. The idea that they must puts a lot of pressure on them.
My daughter is almost 16 and has never been on a date. She's also very mature for her age and I suspect that when she does like a boy, it will be a very intense relationship, so I'm in no rush. Every once in a while, she expresses some concern about dating, but I just encourage her to enjoy herself without the distraction of a boy.
Since you mentioned that not everyone dates in high school, I thought I'd throw in that my DD (now 22) was the total opposite in h.s.--she never dated.
My DD, now nearly 20 y/o, started dating her fiance when she was just 2 months past her 15th bday.
ITA Rose.
Thank you for your thoughtful, insightful words. You sound very intelligent as well. My daughter also takes upper math classes which have mostly guys. It makes me feel so much better hearing from someone who was there and turned out just fine. :) They have been through some rough spots, but both seem to want to make it work. So they do. Thanks again for your thoughts.
And as far as the high school dating experience goes, maybe this is it.?
Well, thanks for letting me vent. If you have any other thoughts for me, please feel free. And good luck to you when your daughter begins dating! :)
Well, my kindred
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