15 year old daughter in realtionship with same boy for over 2 years

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15 year old daughter in realtionship with same boy for over 2 years
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Thu, 04-14-2011 - 10:55am

I have a mature for her age 15 year old daughter who has been dating the same boy for over two years. (She hit puberty at 10 so she acts more like a 17 or 18 year old most of the time) Most advice I have gotten is forbid it.

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Thanks! :)
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DD - dear daughter, DS - dear son, DH - dear (or darn) husband, IMO - In my opinion. Not sure about IMC
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I feel silly asking but.....can you tell me what all the abbreviations mean:? DD, IMC, DH, IMO, DS I think DD means Dear Daughter?
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Thank you for your post. I enjoyed your family tale! Wow! I think you all must have some amazing kids! Don't sell yourself short. I teach school, and I most definitely can tell a lot about a parent by their children. You did a good job raising your girls! Good luck! And congratulations on becoming a grandma!
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Ah, Musiclover,

Obviously, you had several kinky couples in your high school.

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I graduated from h.s. in 1975 and there are several couples I know of who were high school sweethearts who are still married & going strong and only one couple I can think of who got divorced.

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"I have to agree, that there comes a point in a relationship where the kids are so wrapped up together (though not necessarily tied up with a pretty bow!) that if the romance derails, it will be as messy as any divorce."

Last summer my dh and I were talking about our dd and her boyfriend.

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Well, my kindred

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Thank you for taking the time to reply. I really appreciate it. I keep telling myself that it won't last, but they are going on 2 1/2 years! I can feel the ebbs and flows of the relationship where at times, they are having problems and I think, ok this is it. And I feel guilty about feeling relieved that it is coming to an end, and then they work it out. And I think "darn it." Even though he really is a very nice kid and I actually really like him. If I could just fast forward this relationship 8 or 10 years into the future, I know I would be very happy with the person she chose. I think that is part of my problem, I feel torn. I don't want to encourage her to maintain a long-term relationship at this age, but at the same time, I don't want her to think that I disapprove of her choice of a guy. I have told her most of all I want her to be happy, not just now, but long term as well. I have also told her I don't want her to be hurt when they break up. But I honestly do not see how to soften that blow. My daughter has excellent self-esteem and sense of self worth. She is confident and mature. And she tells me, "Mom I really like him. I don't want to date anyone else right now. You have no idea how immature most of the guys is HS are. We aren't serious! I'm just in high school." And I just don't know what to say to that really. My daughter has always been a very loyal friend so I think that plays into it as well.
And as far as the high school dating experience goes, maybe this is it.?
Well, thanks for letting me vent. If you have any other thoughts for me, please feel free. And good luck to you when your daughter begins dating! :)

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