15 y/o on the pill?? WWYD??

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15 y/o on the pill?? WWYD??
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Wed, 11-15-2006 - 8:05am

Last night my DD 15 N came to me and asked me about going on birth control pills.

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Wed, 11-15-2006 - 10:59pm

<<<...but he's a man, and most men would rather not think about such things! LOL>>>>

You ain't a-kiddin' there bub..... :-)

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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 12:48am

Like most others, I'd say it's okay. I've been on and off for 30 years since the age of 18 with no bad effects so far---it's probably safe for your daughter. And like you say, better safe than pregnant. In my 40s, for me it was the regularity that I needed, and it surely helped that. Eventually quit cuz of concerns with my circulation--bad varicose veins from two pregnancies and bad genes from both sides of the family.

What shocks me are all the responses re young girls, ~15, who might be having sex. My DS is 17 and he says he and his girlfriend are not doing it, but I gotta wonder now. We have had all the talks about STDs and responsibilty, but we did with the alcohol, too. So I guess we gotta just keep drilling it into them. I never knew how easy our constantly-debating, extrovert son #1 was until introvert son#2 turned 17! I am 100% sure that if he were a girl he would have been pregnant by now! (I'll soon post with an update on the suspension, $350 jacket, zero tolerance, etc.)

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Thu, 11-16-2006 - 9:47pm

Hi Rose, I'm a big believer in putting them on the pill when they ask unless it would be harmful to them. Saw too many of my friends get pregnant at 16/17 because they were afraid to ask for the pills. I told DD's Doctor to give her the pill whenever DD asked for it and always talked with DD about the need for condoms in addition to the pill. I was the cool Mom until I actually found out she was having sex & then I freaked out like a Victorian Mom. However, she made a decision, got her protection and used condoms too. So she was mature enough to avoid pregnancy even if she was too young in my opinion to have sex. Also, I didn't tell my DH when she started having sex as he couldn't have handled it. He would have tried to lock her in her room.

I also don't believe that being on the pill is going to lead to immediate sexual activity. Yes, it would be easier to say yes but I don't believe that being on the pill is the only reason she will decide to have sex. I think you have more chance with a teen saying yes without protection.

Just make sure you use my DD as an example of how even with the pill & being a responsible age, you can still get pregnant at 26! :-)

Dee

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Fri, 11-17-2006 - 9:13am

I think I'll be making an apt for her after Thanksgiving.

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Fri, 11-17-2006 - 9:56am

Do any of you know, or have any of you had first had experience with the BC shot, every 3 months?

I have had several parents reccomend that, I am planning for the future...my daughter is not to that point, yet. Although she does have an appt in Jan for her first check up and to get the HPV vaccine.

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Fri, 11-17-2006 - 10:27am

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I agree that this is a great idea, sometimes our sharing will help with the situation. A was unplanned (was told after the first 2 fertility drug babies, there would be no more for me) and we have always talked about how he was a such a blessing & unexpected gift. But I shared this week with DD, my real feelings when I found out I was pregnant to help her deal with her unplanned pregnancy. I was very depressed during my pregnancy as this was so unexpected & I was worried because J had a disability that I couldn't handle another baby. It really helped her as she knows how much I love A and am glad he was born in spite of those TT years. lol

Dee

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Fri, 11-17-2006 - 10:34am

I personally took the depo shot for several years between DD#2 and DD#3. I did not have any problems with it, but I know/heard of some who have. I knew a girl who couldn't take it because of continual breakthrough bleeding. And, you've got the hormones in your system for months if you don't tolerate it. You might check out the birth control board on the love and sex area. I know there have been several posts on it. If you tolerate it well it is good birth control as it has a very high effective rate. It's a good question to bring up to your gyn when you go for a visit.

HTH

Sallie

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Fri, 11-17-2006 - 11:22am

What does it mean to freak out like a Victorian mom? What'd you do after finding out?

My dad is a violent raciest drunk. Last week he found out my sister had a 23y/o black boyfriend so he broke her nose. They split up because dad threatened to kill him. Dad is big, intimidating defense lawyer. My sister says he handed her boyfriend a bullet and said the next one would be in his head. I am lucky that my dad doesn't hate my boyfriend.

Holley

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Fri, 11-17-2006 - 11:29am

I think it is good that you want to get your daughter on birth control. I lost my virginity when I was 14y/o. It was terrible. I was planning on waiting much longer, but it happened one night while visiting his house. We decided in the heat of the moment. The condom slipped off and I panicked for a few weeks. Finally I told mom, we took a pregnancy test and it was negative!!! woot-woot! After that mom put me on birth control. Even on B/C we tried to stop having sex because neither of us was really ready, but that didn't work. I take that back. He probably was ready, but I wasn't. Things worked out though. We have been together two years and plan on getting married after I finish high school.

I hope other people have a better first time than me. I would give just about anything to go back and plan it out again even if it was still at 14. Spur of the moment was not how I wanted my first time. I don't regret us doing it. I regret how we did it. I think the only thing worse would have been losing it in a car.

What is a Victorian mom? How would you act?

Holley

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Fri, 11-17-2006 - 11:32am

My sister's on depo. No problems that I know of, but she probably wouldn't tell me if she did have problems. When I was picking out birth control mom warned against depo because of possible bone density problems. My sister went behind her back which is why she is on depo.

I am getting Implanon next week. Mom says it is a little rod they place under the skin that will last for three years. I will be the first one at her clinic to receive it!

Holley