15yr old niece pregnant

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Registered: 01-22-2005
15yr old niece pregnant
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Mon, 04-03-2006 - 3:34pm
Hello everyone,
I was hoping I could get some advice. My 15 year old niece just let us know a couple of weeks ago that she is pregnant.Of course we were shocked and devastated. She wasnt even aloud to date and is very immature so that was the last thing we had excepted.The only reason she told us is I hade her an appointment that week to get birth control pills just to be safe.(a little late huh?). We found out that she had been sneaking out with a 19 yr old boy that she had been forbidden to even talk to on the phone. They are planning on having the baby and he said that he will help out even though he has no job. My sister and I have decided to be there for her and help her any way we can. Her father and the rest of our family is furious. They want him arrested and for her to be sent away to a home for unwed mothers.I am not sure what is the right thing to do. The only thing I dont agree with is her mother lets her do whatever she wants now,like all of a sudden she is an adult. She lets her go out all of the time now even lets her go stay overnight with the bf. I have taken her to her drs app and have been trying to educate her by buying books and watching films. She has no idea what she is in for. She is still a child herself. Her mom works all the time . Im afraid I will be the one ending up raising this child and I am not ready to do that. Anyway thanks for reading my post. Any advice or replies would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!!!

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Wed, 04-05-2006 - 3:26pm

I didn't mean that YOU were lying down or tiptoeing around BF - I meant her mother, his family, etc. I actually think you're in a very difficult position. You are the one person who sees it all, loves her neice, wants to help, but legally doesn't have a leg to stand on. Would it be possible for your sister to give you temporary custody of her dd? That way at least you will have access to her medical information and can help her make decisions regarding her future.

As for the BF, I really hope that he is able to step up to the plate. It's a shame that his parents AND her parent are not the greatest role models.

Oh boy.

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Registered: 01-22-2005
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 2:21pm
Hi,
I am so sorry I seemed defensive. You were just asking the questions that needed to be addressed. I dont think her mom would give me temporary custody. She doesnt even think anything is wrong. I have tried talking to her but it doesnt help. I hope her bf will step up to the plate also. He actually is at a drs appt with her now. So you never know. Thanks again for your replies and I didnt mean to be so touchy on the last one.Im just an emotional wreck. I am going through health problems and trying to deal with this also.This board has really helped me.Its like telling your problems to a friend. Take care

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