16 year old hanging with a single mom

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Registered: 05-25-2007
16 year old hanging with a single mom
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Thu, 06-28-2007 - 4:30pm
My DD is 16 years old. She and her boyfriend broke up about 3 months ago. She hasn't moved on yet and is still calling and trying to get him back. She has become really close to a mom of one of her friends. This is a 33 year old single mom. The mom has tried to help my DD get back with her boyfried. My DD wants to go and hang at her apartment alot and I recently discovered that the mom took her to happy hour one evening. I don't think that my DD drank any alcohol, but I found out a lot of guys were hitting on her. She and the mom are making plans to go out again. I should mention that my daughters friend does not live with her mom, but with her grandparents. My DD wants to go to the single moms apartment even when her friend is not over there. What should I do about this. I have tried to step in and stop my DD from going over there, and we always get into a huge argument.
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Registered: 02-14-2000
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 5:39pm
I think you need to stand firm on this one.
Pam
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Registered: 10-16-1999
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 6:11pm

I'm totally with you on this one Pam!


Rose

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Registered: 02-14-2007
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 7:23pm
I feel for your situation. My DD was dumped by her bf a few months ago, and she is still desperately hoping to get him back. I can't understand why she would even want him back at this point, but I can see how your DD would gravitate to someone who wanted to help her out. However, I completely agree with the previous posters. There is absolutely no way I would allow my DD (who will be 16 in a few months) to hang out with a 30-year-old. I don't care how angry it would make her. I'd try to keep her busy with other alternatives--friends, activities, chores, anything! What is most troubling is that this woman took her to a happy hour. That is just plain wrong.
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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 7:24pm

Taking her to happy hour, whether she allowed her to drink or not,is totally inappropriate.

This is a "no" worth arguing over(or, as already suggested, have the 3o something come to your home-if it's just a good friend to talk to as I suspect dd is claiming that should be acceptable)

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Thu, 06-28-2007 - 8:20pm

I totally agree with Pam on this one.