16 yo about to become father
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|Fri, 11-16-2012 - 3:01am|
My 16 year old has informed my hubby and i tonight that he is about to become a father. To make matters worse, he will be moving within the next month to where she lives, 3 hours away. We have been homeschooling him for the last few months as he struggles in school and did not do well in a school setting, so his education will come to an end, he claims he will find an outreach school in the new town and do it thru them, but he currently only has a grade 9 and was working on grade 10. He has a full time job here and nothing there. She is only 15, dropping out of school and her mom lives 8 hours away, (5 hours from us), her mom decided a few months ago to pack up and move and not take her daughter, leaving the girl with her older sister and brother, where my son says, there is alot of fighting and very small place. My son s's aid he will go up there and get a job doing what he does now, they will get an apartment together with a friend of theirs and he will support her. He claims in a couple months, the girlfriends mom will now be heading back to the new town and the two of them will move in with her. I'm concerned that if she's already taken off, it won't take much before she bolts again. She has already had my son drive her daughter from our town, go north, pick up her daughter, then the 8 hours south for a quick visit as the Mom doesn't like to drive especially on highways and then promised my son gas money and only gave him $50, which barely covered his trip north and back here, let alone down there and back again.
I have tried to talk to my son and convince him to have his gf move here, We have a big house with a kitchen in the basement so they could have their own space if they wanted or come upstairs for meals, rent would be next to nothing and we know he has a good job here and could continue with his education. We could financially help them out, but her mom would have to make my son pay half the rent in a tiny apartment and do all the errands cause for her age, she's very immature. I'm also sure that once that baby is born, she will take off after a night of crying and distrurbing her sleep/life. If she can't raise her 15yo, how will she cope with a baby? I know I would have the gf attending dr appt and stay healthy, i'm not so sure her mom will, that requires driving to dr and interfering with her life. my son has tried to talk to gf about living here, but she wants to be with her mom, I get that, as a pregnant girl i would too, but her mom will let them both down again, run away again and leave my son to pick up the pieces
I'm very concerned for my sons future, not so much cause of the baby, thats minor in my opinion, but of the support and what he is giviing up for this future. he has told me he would rather be here, he doesn't want to go, but feels he has to do what is right, Guess I did something right in raising him, but damn, cant he be stubborn and make her come here where it will be better for all 3 of them. I have done nothing but cry for the last 5 hours since he told me because of his moving, I dont want to lose my baby yet!