17 yo dd ARGH!!!!!!!!

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Registered: 01-04-2005
17 yo dd ARGH!!!!!!!!
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Wed, 04-05-2006 - 7:17pm
So I don’t even know what to call this post. I could go on about my DD who is 17, but I’ll stick to the current matter of anger. We basically eat dinner everynight together. Of course my DD (we also have a 9 and 13 yo) has a few school commitments, has her own car and may not always be able to be home at that time, she really has lots of freedom. Well lately, lets say 3 or more months, I find she has less commitments near the dinner hour and can be home to eat with us, but somehow finds a reason to not be home and if she doe, she will come home with take out or say shes not hungry or she already ate. Here is what really makes me mad; 1., she has a lot of nerve spending money on takeout ; 2., I make plenty of good food 3. she gets mad if we ate without her or we didnt make dinner say on a Saturday, when everyone else had plans. I have no idea what to do, I only know I am so irritated, I am ready to divorce her!!! Any insight would be greatly appreciated.
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Registered: 01-20-2005
Thu, 04-06-2006 - 9:26am
I've been through a similar thing with my DD. She always complains and says I never cook. When I do, she doesn't like it. Odd though, she snarfed it down last week. I think some of it may be that, at 17, they are trying to pull themselves away from the family some but still want the security of knowing that the family is there and things aren't going to change. What they don't realize is that of course things are going to change. When they leave home, there is a whole at home and we will adapt to fill that hole. Then when they come home things aren't exactly as they left them. Your DD is probably beginning to see that and she's not sure how to respond so maybe she's pulling away a little.
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Fri, 04-07-2006 - 11:04am
My dd (16 1/2) and ds (15) do the same thing. I've decided it's not worth getting too upset about. They are both in sports right now and I would like them to eat at home after practice, but this happens only about twice during the week. The other nights they are either participating in a game and eat with the team or they go with friends to eat somewhere. It's okay for now. BUT... every Sunday all three kids are to be home for supper. That is the one night we can all sit down together and have a nice meal. There have been times when they tried to get out of it, but we held firm on that. I think they do appreciate it; it certainly must feel comforting for them. At least I hope so.
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