18 year old, lazy or lost?
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|Tue, 09-21-2010 - 3:56am|
My 18 year old daughter has just graduated high school and seems to be confused and lost as to what to do next. She was sure she wanted to go to nursing school but has decided she can't deal with the ick factor, she was going to tech school so never took the SAT. Doesn't want to go to college, I really think she feels as though she cannot do the work, she really struggled in school, should have had her tested, has a hard time memorizing, etc. Anyway, she just seems to have no real ambition or drive. Is this normal? Her friends are younger girls, but all of them are drop outs (one has severe anxiety) but all the kids now of days seems to be drop outs, disgraceful. I let her be a slacker this summer but now it's time to buckle down on something. She is completely unmotivated in all areas, I don't think she would take a shower unless we forced her to. She is overweight, sloppy and constantly frustrated with everything! She has polycystic ovarian disease and it affects her in so many areas, weight, depression, energy, insomnia. She is working with her dad for now but he doesn't need her all the time, so she will take any opportunity to take off to sleep or "hang out". On the positive, she is an incredibly sweet girl, to a fault, she tries to take care of everyone, tries to solve everyone's problems. She smokes but does no drugs or drinking.
I'm so jealous of the other kids I see on facebook, at college, joining sororites, hanging out with people who are pursuing goals. I just don't know how much to push her, she goes into a depression funk when we do. Should I give her time to figure things out or push her out of the nest? I just love her so much and want the best for her.