19 year old son and towels on the floor

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Registered: 04-10-2012
19 year old son and towels on the floor
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Tue, 04-10-2012 - 9:28am

Hello,

I have a 19 year old son at home.

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Tue, 04-10-2012 - 11:26pm

Well our DDs, and SILs who live with us, are so perfect that I just can’t understand things like this. LOL I could burn in hell for a lie like that. LOL

I have always thought that blending two families well is no less difficult than landing men on the moon. I don’t think our situation of having SILs live with us counts as a blended family situation, so I’m not really qualified on the subject.

I can see that this is driving you, DH, and sonny batty, but on a scale of 1 to 100, I think it ranks below # 9,931.

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Tue, 04-10-2012 - 7:07pm
ummm.... so ds isn't supposed to put the towels in the hamper, over the shower rod or on the floor. Where is he supposed to put them?? Talk about setting the kid up for a no win situation! I suspect this has nothing to do with towels and everything to do with anger at a step son, something I quite honestly don't get... he knew you had a son when he married you, if he can't deal with that fact without stooping to childish antics (and IMO turning off the electricity to the upstairs in retribution for the towel fiasco is childish), then either it's time for family counseling or time to call it quits.
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Tue, 04-10-2012 - 6:24pm

Your problem is not your son, it is your husband.

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Tue, 04-10-2012 - 12:37pm

When we are frustrated with a situation as a whole, it's natural to hyper-focus on one issue that may seem minor to others. I did the same thing when my adult brother was living with us. I knew he was in a bad place. I knew he needed help but I also knew he was wallowing in self-pity and not pushing himself to be independant again like he should.

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Tue, 04-10-2012 - 11:45am
I get the impression this is your ds's private bathroom, or at least separate from yours. Does he do his own laundry? I would think he would be, and can then manage his towels by himself; if dh doesn't like it, let ds close the door to his bathroom. I don't like when my ds is home and uses a towel/shower (we don't; our choice) and puts his sopping towel down the laundry chute where it might wait a couple days to get washed, and in the mean time gets everything else around it damp and sometimes mildewy... So I'd say have ds manage his own towels, and keep dh out of that bath (esp since it's upstairs, out of the way of visitors/guests). If ds wants them on the floor, fine - odds are when he gets his own place and has company he'll change his tune. That's kinda sweating the little stuff IMHO.

Sue
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Registered: 11-28-1999
Tue, 04-10-2012 - 10:59am

I think your DH has focused on this one thing because he is probably sick of your Ds being a slob and now he's going overboard.