7 Things Your Teen Won't Tell You
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| Thu, 05-11-2006 - 11:48am |
I recently purchased a book that is really helping me so I thought I'd let the rest of you know. It is "7 Things Your Teenager Won't Tell You... and how to talk to them anyway."
The seven things are 1). Their brains are to blame. 2) Truth is as malleable as their Friday night plans 3). Controlling them is not the point, 4). The adolescent mirror distorts 5). Friends don't matter as much as we may think 6). When we say no, they hear maybe 7). Taking risks gives them power. It talks about establishing rules according to theses expectations... Stay Safe, Show Respect, Keep in Touch.
Lately, I have been repeating these three rules often. When a kid isn't doing well in one area... lately it's the 16-yr.-old and the Keep In Touch rule... I say the three rules and mention that they haven't been doing very well with number 3 lately. They seem to be getting it. The book goes on to discuss alot of things in detail (sex, drugs, booze, reckless driving) and how to handle them. I feel like the authors have been sitting around my house and have come up with the discussions we should have been having during the difficult times. I know there are more ahead but now I feel better equipped. As I'm sure all of you would... I would much rather have a discussion with the teens than a loud argument. Hope this helps others. You can buy it off Amazon.com for about $10.
Deb

Thanks for the reference - I'll check it out!
Amelia