About cleavage and your teen........

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Registered: 04-30-2000
About cleavage and your teen........
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Sun, 12-16-2007 - 1:06am

Dd had mentioned awhile back that she would like a short red dress for midwinter.

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iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 11:37am

I agree. Good post.

iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 11:43am

Cnik,


I'm confused! You were in high school in the late '90s and you are the parent of a teen now? Wow.


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iVillage Member
Registered: 11-25-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 12:09pm
OK you child is 17 years old. She will be an adult in a year. She should be picking out her own cloths and you might be able suggest your thoughts but she old enough to make decision herself.
iVillage Member
Registered: 12-07-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 12:52pm

Wrong. I'm a teacher of teens. Never claimed to be a parent.

iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 2:03pm


Actually, in many parts of the Western world, people waiting till the late 20s is the common situation. It is the norm here. In 1997, the average age of first time brides is about 27 and for grooms, 29. In the UK, the age of maternal first birth has been above 23 since 1940. It was late 20s in the 1940, gradually decrease to a low of just under 24 in 1970 and then has increase gradually to 27 in 2004.

Even when I was young, in the late 60s and early 70s, it was very unusual for girls to marry straight out of high school. The majority waited till they were financially secure. Those who married in their early 20s also tended to wait before starting a family.

Now, different areas have different customs and perhaps in parts of the US, early marriage is the norm. But, in this part of the world, many parents of senior high school students are in their 40s. And a good percentage of parents are in their late 40s and early 50s.

iVillage Member
Registered: 12-27-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 2:22pm
growing up I was very well endowed (I was in a d-cup by the time I was 13 yrs old). my mom had the hardest time finding clothes that fit well without looking trashy. I have 2 suggestions if you feel that she is too you to be wearing such revealing clothes you can either have her clothes made or do some serious searching when you shop. with her being 17 however you have to realize that in a year she's going to wear what she wants to wear anyway.
iVillage Member
Registered: 02-14-2007
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 4:40pm
Sorry! It's hard to keep track of what everybody posts, and I didn't see it in your profile. :-) It's just that I have relatively young teens and they were already entering elementary school in the late '90s!
iVillage Member
Registered: 10-16-1999
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 6:56pm
I think the age of marriage and first baby varies greatly from one part of the country to the next... in our area of the world a LOT of brides are under 25 y/o, probably the majority of first time brides are.
iVillage Member
Registered: 09-29-2004
Thu, 12-27-2007 - 8:17pm


That is why I added "in my part of the world". However, the average age of first time brides is increasing in all of the Western countries as we become more urbanized.

Here, getting married in the early 20s, is not frowned upon but it does raise some questions as to what is the hurry. Very few of my friends were married in their early 20s and I am 55. Those who were tended to be from emigrant families and/or were not pursuing a post secondary university education. Being married and attending university is not common and still is. And since the majority of kids go to university or college here, people having kids in their early 20s is even less common still.

Like I said, we have different cultures and customs. Neither approach to marriage is better; just different.

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