Accidentally catching son masturbating

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Registered: 07-10-2003
Accidentally catching son masturbating
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Wed, 03-21-2007 - 1:17pm
Well what I kind if knew was inevitable happened last week. I went into my DS's room to get his laundry and when I opened the door, there he was, on his bed in all his glory, masturbating. I usually knock first but I was busy thinking about what I was going to make for dinner and didn't realize that I didn't knock. Anyway, there was not much he could do but turn beet red. I just said, sorry, and quickly left. I knew that he masturbated and truthfully I wasn't even embarrassed. I guess that I was more amused (I have always been amused that boys could never control that part of their bodies), than anything else, though I never let him know that.
Anyway, later when he came down for dinner, he couldn't look me in the eye. After about 5 minutes of silence, he apoligized and asked me if I was angry. My short answer was, no, but that we would talk about it after dinner. I also apologized to him for not knocking. To make a long story short, I told him that I wasn't angry, that it was normal, natural, all boys and most girls do it. I also told him that I knew he had been doing it for a while. When I told my best friend, with whom I have no secrets, about this, she told me that she has almost caught her son on several ocassions. He would quickly cover up and be sweating and red.
Have any of you ever caught or almost caught your son masturbating? My impression is that it's NOT that uncommon.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-23-2007 - 7:53am

This is getting kinda ridiculous:

I think the op used poor judgment in using the word "amused" more than once in describing walking in on her son. That would probably be what brought the skeptism. If I walked in on either of my children doing something so personal - I would be horrified. Not because they are doing that, but because seeing "my babies doing that" just wouldn't amuse me.... There have been previous post with a similar subject matter and the word "amused" was never used to describe the experience...

As far as the name calling - let's just get back to the issues at hand and get along....




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Registered: 03-26-2003
Fri, 03-23-2007 - 9:18am
Rose - I sent you a private email.
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Registered: 03-25-2003
Fri, 03-23-2007 - 9:53am
But if you thought it was inevitable - WHY on earth forget to knock? Sorry - we might just be really different on that one, but I would never enter my son's room (with him in it) without at least making him aware of my presence first...and honestly, that IS one reason why, as I did have the excruciating experience of walking in on my now brother-in-law when he was 15 ;-) uh....we don't mention that...EVER! LOL He walked in on me getting out of the shower a few months after that; not nearly the same level of embarassment I'm sure, but it sort of made us even.
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Registered: 01-12-2005
Fri, 03-23-2007 - 11:07am

Hi Ladies,


We are closing this thread because it has taken a turn away from support and toward personal attacks.

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