Adult child - Can I talk to anyone here?

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Registered: 07-13-2011
Adult child - Can I talk to anyone here?
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Wed, 04-18-2012 - 3:33pm

This board seems to be to discuss younger kids and I have an adult son who is 25 and I would like to have someone to chat with.

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Avatar for sabrtooth
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Registered: 12-03-1999
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 5:12pm

Yes, several of us. Mine are 28 &30.

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 6:21pm
Mine are older too... 27, 27, 24 and 21. (Well, almost 21) The link that sabre gave leads to a good group of supportive moms.
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Registered: 07-13-2011
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 10:55pm

Thanks -

My story - I was just divorced a few months ago and have adult children. I moved back to my hometown to help take care of my parents.

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Wed, 04-18-2012 - 10:59pm

I have a 23 yr old DD & 16 yr old DS and no, I haven't experienced anything like this from my DD.

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Registered: 11-25-2007
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 12:09am
not yet from my adult child soon to be 21, but I am sure its only a matter of time, even though I work school hours primarily due to raising 3 singlehandedly with no help from their father, except for standard CS. But Ds17 wonders why I am "only" working p/t - because "we are all raised now" - DD14 and him still at home..............lolol In my case, its mostly about empathy towards the uninvolved parent who lives in a smaller place and has chosen to go onto early retirement/60% pay - which of course reduces CS aka income to us - ironic - empathy for the parent he never sees, or has nothing to do with their raising - but the one who is and has done ALL the raising gets the insensitive and offensive comments. Ouch and Im bracing myself for worse comments as he hits the 18 and a HS senior in a few mths. I wonder if your sons comments have anything at all to do with the other parents situation as in my case? If so, you might also find support on the divorce/single parenting boards I feel for you, it stings from such inexperienced mouths!

mom_uk2socal - Mom to DS22, DS19, DD16

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Registered: 12-03-1999
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 12:38am

I lost my job 2 years go, my younger dd had been job hunting twice within 2 years, and my older dd has been looking to change jobs for over a year.

Avatar for elc11
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Registered: 06-16-1998
Thu, 04-19-2012 - 10:57am

I haven't faced the exact thing as you but my 28yo ds can be kind of a "know it all" sometimes telling me/dh how to do things etc. Sometimes its welcome, such as when it pertains to computers/technology but other times its about things that I knew how to do before he was born! I don't let it get to me, for generations young people have thought that they invented the world LOL and I vaguely remember doing the same thing to my parents in my early 20s. I do try to consider whether his "suggestion" has merit---maybe his way IS a better way etc. Other things I decide that my current way of doing them is just fine, and ignore him.

As another poster mentioned it might help to try to separate the issues of what you do for your dd, and how to proceed in your job hunt.

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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 7:54am

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Fri, 04-20-2012 - 8:03am

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Sat, 04-21-2012 - 12:34am

I had a wonderful career working for the same company for 11 years before moving back to my hometown.

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