Advice needed for 14yr DD...
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Advice needed for 14yr DD...
| Sat, 01-13-2007 - 12:02pm |
Hi Everyone!
I don't post much but follow all the discussions and really would value some input...
My 14yr old DD (our youngest & almost 15) is agreat girl who doesn't give us serious trouble - lots of attitude and arguing - but all she appears to be interested in is her appearance and her BF. We limit the amount of time she spends w/ bf (and so do his parents) because they have liked each other over a year and they seem alittle too intense about each other. It seems all she does is wait around for the next opportunity to see him. She has friends who she sees outside school periodically and plays soccer in the fall, but that is it! I would love her to have a passion like her older brothers do (thiers happen to involve sports but still...) and I need advice as to how to encourage her.
She played sax in several bands up to this year and has quit since entering HS. I know this is not the most critical of issues but I want her to develop interests and perseverance toward a goal.
Any thoughts or ideas would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks
Sharon
I don't post much but follow all the discussions and really would value some input...
My 14yr old DD (our youngest & almost 15) is agreat girl who doesn't give us serious trouble - lots of attitude and arguing - but all she appears to be interested in is her appearance and her BF. We limit the amount of time she spends w/ bf (and so do his parents) because they have liked each other over a year and they seem alittle too intense about each other. It seems all she does is wait around for the next opportunity to see him. She has friends who she sees outside school periodically and plays soccer in the fall, but that is it! I would love her to have a passion like her older brothers do (thiers happen to involve sports but still...) and I need advice as to how to encourage her.
She played sax in several bands up to this year and has quit since entering HS. I know this is not the most critical of issues but I want her to develop interests and perseverance toward a goal.
Any thoughts or ideas would be greatly appreciated!
Thanks
Sharon

First thought is that maybe you could get her to try some new things with you -- I recently took my DD to a class at a local nursery/pumpkin patch/herb garden/garden center and made fairy gardens in ceramic containers. She really enjoyed that and wants us to take a wreath making class there later this month.
Does she have a lot of pictures of her and her bf? How about getting her started with scrapbooking? That is a lot of fun (tho the costs can run up!) and would be a nice creative outlet for her.
Check around a little into what's going on in your area and see what you can find that might be fun for the both of you. In order for her to find her passion, she might need to try a few things out for size first.
Just some ideas. I'm sure others will have more.
I think what you're doing is on the right track - encouraging her to pursue interests and limiting BF time. Other than that, I'd give her time. I tried pushing my DD to outside interests in 9th grade and she resisted. Then this year, she's joined 3 or 4 things in and out of school ... on her own initiative.
Hang in there!
Sue