Advice Please

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Registered: 08-18-2010
Advice Please
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Wed, 09-01-2010 - 10:45pm
I am not one who likes to drag family drama into an open forum, but I could really use advice in dealing with my 19 year old sister. She has some serious emotional issues that are all related to her idiot on and off again boyfriend. He does all he can to break my family apart. He makes my sister cry and she takes it all out on me and my parents. I think he actually takes pleasure in it. Last week my sister had a major emotional break that she does not remember. And if she doesn't get her way she throws an absolute tantrum (stomping, screaming, crying, throwing things, etc)
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Registered: 08-18-2010
Wed, 09-01-2010 - 11:24pm
She also doesn't remember having these episodes after she's had a chance to calm down.
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Thu, 09-02-2010 - 12:18am

As the sister of an almost 40 y.o. younger sister who still acts the very same way (along with punching our parents), I can tell you there's not a thing you can do.

 

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Registered: 11-28-1999
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 11:23am
If your DS is having a serious emotional break & not even remembering it, then I would really suspect a mental illness--there are some mis that are known to start in young adults--I think schizophrenia is one of them. Unfortunately since she is an adult, no one can force her to get treatment unless she is a danger to herself or others. As the mom of a 21 yr old DD who can be a drama queen at times, I still dont' think it's normal for a 19 yr old to throw a tantrum over $10--I don't know what you can really do unless you can talk to her some time when she's feeling calm. It's really up to your parents to set some standards of how she needs to behave if she wants to continue to live in their house.
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Registered: 12-03-1999
Thu, 09-02-2010 - 11:28am
Your sister has a health problem. It could be BiPolar, BPD, or a number of other things that produce "rage attacks"--and with loss of memory, it could even be a physical problem. If she is still on your parents insurance, your parents and you should try to convince her to get a full medical/psychiatric work up.
http://www.tourettesyndrome.net/disorders/rage-attacks-or-storms/