After Prom Night Hotel Room??
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|Thu, 05-22-2003 - 11:46pm|
Our daughter is 16-she is a junior who has had senioritis this whole year. She barely squeezed through the year and her senioritis in her junior year nearly cost her being a junior again. She is going to the Senior Prom with seven of her friends. They are all 18, two of them have 20 year old boyfriends. They want to rent a hotel room near the beach so they can go to the beach the next day. My husband & I are not totally in agreement which my daughter catches onto very quickly and uses to her advantage! I know consistency and undivided parents is the key. However, I have mixed feelings as I understand her wanting to be with her friends this last time. However, I keep thinking about how many times she has lied to us in the past and how much trouble we have had with her this past year(we have discovered several instances of drinking @ home while we were out, allowing friends to drink here, etc). I can't help but wonder if the plan is much bigger than she says it will be. My husband adamantly opposes the hotel idea. We compromised and told her she can come home at 3:00 a.m. when the Limo is finished. She refuses-wants to stay out at the hotel, questions why, we "are ridiculous", you know the whole teenage gambit of lines. I offered an alternative-go to NYC after the prom, return here with the limo @ 3 a.m., change, go out for breakfast then go to the beach. She said none of them wants to go to anyone's house. My oldest daughter did this-we had 20 kids here, it was fun. This daughter is totally different.
Needless to say, it is causing a raucus nearly every day.It shouldn't and we shouldn't allow it, but it does as she will not accept our answer. Quite frankly, I believe she will go anyway and risk getting grounded again. Presently she is grounded for cutting two periods of school and calling in sick to go into NYC one afternoon. We both think she is lucky to even go to the Prom, considering it isn't even hers! I am not sure if I feel this way because of her past behavior or because I believe letting them go to a hotel is like assisting them to do what they shouldn't do.
What's your opinion of the hotel idea? It just seems kids insist on getting their way and insist on challenging parents' authority - it's their right to do as they please. After speaking to her, I realize we are the only parents who question this activity -are we alone? I would be interested in hearing opinions and experiences.