after school care for middle schooler

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-26-2003
after school care for middle schooler
Mon, 04-07-2003 - 10:10am
I have recently returned to work after 8 years at home. Finding after school care for my 2nd grader was not a problem, but my 7th grade daughter has been at home alone many afternoons. Although we have established rules to ensure her safety and our peace of mind, she ignores them and believes herself to be "above the law". I have not been able to find any after school options for her that would not require me or someone else to provide transportation.

I'm just curious to know how any other working mothers of middle schoolers have handled this. I may be overlooking sources that are available to me.

iVillage Member
Registered: 03-31-2003
Tue, 04-08-2003 - 2:32pm
What i had to do was give them chores. I explained that running the household is the entire families' responsiblity. so every day they have a specific chore, either dishes, vacuuming, starting dinner, and it has to be done by the time i get home, around 5-530pm. They also have to have their homework done. (I know this all sounds great, but i'm not there to make sure it happens)...i base it on their allowance. I told them i get paid when i work, they'll get paid when they work. When the first allowance day came and there was no money, they started doing it. And i've also outlined a list of chores if they wanted more money.
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Registered: 03-20-2003
Mon, 04-07-2003 - 1:39pm
How about contacting the SAHM of one of her friends and seeing if your dd could go over there? Or contacting a high school girl to come over after school. Of course in those cases you would have to pay them. Or maybe a neighbor with younger kids - your dd could be something of a 'mothers helper' after school while she herself was being supervised. I'd talk to your dd one more time about the importance of you being able to trust her. Perhaps the thought of her having to have/go to a 'babysitter' will be enough to make her start following the rules.

Good luck and hopefully you'll get some other suggestions here.