age for dating.

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Registered: 07-22-2007
age for dating.
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Sun, 07-22-2007 - 4:19pm

well. im 15. i know that this is soposed to be a parent board but i need to know what you other parents think. i met this great guy and he wants to take me on a date. im one of the very few teenage girls that actually wants the guy she likes to meet her parents. i know that they will like him. they're just having a little bit of a hard time seeing that i am mature enough to handle this kind of responsibility. they think i should be 16. but i dont understand at all why do i need to be 16. i mean not that much at all is going to change from now till then. im very responsible and i respect both of them alot. which is really why i feel like im ready to date. so, i did some research and heres my convincing material.

i've Known him for a while- he goes to my school.
Very kind- he’s close with his family
Gentlemen- he always listens to what I have to say.
Totally safe- he will have a cell phone on him at all times. You can call whenever. And you’ll know EXACTLY where im going.
I trust him.
Responsible- never got into a car accident
Im at the point where I can deal with my responsibilities in a mature way.
You can meet him and talk to him when he comes to pick me up.
You can set the curfew.
We both aren’t bad teens and we make smart decisions.
We don’t get into trouble at school or home.
Hopefully you will trust my judgment on dating good people. I hang out with good people, I always have.
If no- maybe he can come over here for the first date. He can come over and watch a movie or something, convincing

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Registered: 02-10-2006
Sun, 07-22-2007 - 5:18pm
How old is he?
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Registered: 10-16-1999
Sun, 07-22-2007 - 8:37pm

If he's within a year or so of your age, I might be more likely to let you go somewhere with him on a date if the two of you had hung out at our house watching movies or playing games a couple of times before you actually went anywhere with him.

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Registered: 05-24-2005
Mon, 07-23-2007 - 12:25am
Like the other 2 replies, I have some things I'd like to know, when will you be 16, how old is he are the main ones. How long have you known him? Since you stated that you'd like your parents to meet him I would suggust a movie for a group of people, your boy being one of the guests. I would think your parents wouldn't mind you having a group of people over, and if they meet your boy in this group (not a date as much as frds watching a movie) maybe you could ease them into the transition better. After they've met your guy and got to know him, and if he's not too much older maybe they will be willing to bend on the age they've set for you to be able to date.
Even though you sound as if you've thought everything out pretty well there may be some things that you've forgotten about and maybe you should try talking to which ever parent you feel more comfortable with about dating in general before you bring up this specific boy. Most of us parents on here probably had rules we didn't agree with when we where younger, but now realize that maybe they weren't as bad as we thought.
Good luck.
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Registered: 02-14-2000
Mon, 07-23-2007 - 10:10am
I agree with the other posters - I'd want to know more about the age difference.
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