Age for Pubic Shaving

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Registered: 05-02-2004
Age for Pubic Shaving
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Mon, 09-25-2006 - 2:34pm
Help!! My DD16 walked in on me while I was shaving myself "down there" and became very curious, asking why I do it (I fibbed a little - feels more comfortable, looks nicer) and wanted to watch how it's done so she could try it, too. She tells me she is sure other girls her age shave. I don't have a clue. Do they? Is it a bad idea for a girl that age? For me, it is quite a sensual experience to groom "down there," but maybe that's just me. I know there have been discussions about minimum age to start shaving legs, and I guess I always assumed that young girls merely do a little bikini line trimming with scissors for bathing suit season. BTW, she has been sexually active for several months and I can't be sure her BF is not the reason for her interest in this.

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Registered: 12-18-2006
Sun, 01-07-2007 - 9:41pm

And so too does it bother me. But it must be said.

I don't personally feel that way, that a man won't love me if I'm unshaved - obviously, I wouldn't be with him if he cared either way, and stiff biscuits if he didn't love me because I had hair! It would be HIS loss, not MY hair loss. There are arguments against removing that hair, and there are arguments for removing that hair.

I honestly just don't like the fact of it being there. It's an inconvenience to me. Mainly, it looks bloody awful when it sticks out of the side of my knickers.

I know it is a feminine thing just as much as it is a masculine one, but to be honest with you, when I look at that, I feel it looks masculine.

I would appreciate it if you don't tell me how wrong it is to think that in your next post. These are my personal feelings on the subject, and I am not trying to change anyone else's personal feelings.

You may say that it is a disappointment that a woman feels obligated to remove that hair, but it is a personal choice. Frankly, I don't want it there, and if there is a way to remove it, then I will. But it would never be about someone else telling me to do it.

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Registered: 09-29-2004
Mon, 01-08-2007 - 10:05am

I am with you,sister. And I am older than you.
It is no use spending time and energy talking about this to young women. They don't see it but, then again, did we when we were their age either? We did some strange things to attract males and to look good to other women too.

Vanity,vanity,vanity..it is our curse. We learn much too late in life that the true value of woman is not measured by what she wears or how she cuts her hair or how much hair she has on her public parts or whatever.

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Registered: 11-06-2003
Mon, 01-08-2007 - 10:38am

I haven't chimed in here on this post. Personally, I mostly try to stay neat and trimmed for personal comfort. Upon occasion I'll have what was mentioned on White Chicks as the "bermuda triangle". I do it for comfort and feeling upon occasion, generally during the summer or AFTER I've seen ob/gyn (sure she's seen about everything, but not on MY body).

Now on to my .02.... I personally think a lot of new personal preferance has to do with media. How often have you seen a model in a skimpy little outfit with a "shadow" under her thin little panties? It doesn't happen. There's also a lot of porn or soft porn out there and how often are those women all natural? Not to mention the sleezy ads featuring obviously very young women and making them appear as sexy as possible. Like some of them are even old enough to have pubic hair? I think this part of it fuels one of the other topics posted on here lately about some men (perverts are who I'm really speaking about, not the natural he/she's cute/pretty/nice looking) looking at our young teens with desire. I personally also would like to see some older models, it's happening, but not nearly as quickly as it should be. It seems like as baby boomers have all moved into middle age or older that the models are getting even younger instead of representing the actual age of the population.

Sallie

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Registered: 09-29-2004
Mon, 01-08-2007 - 12:55pm

Wise words but the media reflects what the society wants and the culture of that society.
It is not the other way around,unfortunately. Women are allowing themselves to be "objectified" as plastic dolls. We can say no to all this if we really wanted to.

By the way, the models are not getting older because the ads are geared to the under 30 age bracket.

I personnally have no problem with a woman shaving whatever she wants to. It is a personnal choice,after all. But I find it disturbing that it seems to becoming the norm now and "expected". Reminds me of those FDSs that were pushed when I was young. The ads were insulting, as if all women smelled so badly that we all had to spray chemicals on ourselves. God forbid if the woman doesn't pour perfume over herself and sprays every oriface of her body! The world has to hold their nose while she walks by! Yea, right, they do because of the overall smell of all that perfume. (My DD actually had asthma problems because of some of the girls in her high school).

We ,in the West, shake our heads in wonder at cultures who believe women are "unclean" during their periods and will pollute men. What is the difference? None. The same logic is underfoot. Women are socialized to spray, manipulate and shave or else she is not consider a "clean woman".

Why should people care or worried about "a shadow under white panties". And why should the "white panties" even been seen and be so thin that one can see a "shadow". It is as if they want to "forget" that the panties are covering "private parts" of a grown woman,not some 10-year old child. Underwear is, after all, just underwear. Dress these girls as sluts and then pretend they are not selling sex!

Sorry but I always been rather a "natural woman". I have never wore makeup and I am a firm believer in the power of soap, a hot bath and drinking lots of water. I hate perfume and jewellry bothers my skin. I don't even dye my gray hair. By the way, I loved that Dove commercial although I didn't understand why the women had to be in their underwear.

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Mon, 01-08-2007 - 2:27pm

<<>

Tidbit for the day

Dove and Axe are owned by the same company!

Gotta love the concept of marketing to the target audience, dont ya?

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Registered: 09-29-2004
Mon, 01-08-2007 - 8:00pm

Didn't know that. My kids hate that Axe stuff,smells awful.

Have you notice that the ads for "Depends". She looks like she is about to model on a run way!

I can not wait for the day when ads feature old fa*ts like me with gray hair, hair on my chin and well-earned wrinkles.

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Registered: 12-04-2007
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 8:57am

Hi - I've been lurking for a while but now curiosity got the best of me.


Long story ------ I recently saw my 19yo daughter getting out of the bath and noticed that she had completely removed all of her pubic hair. I casually mentioned this and she said "oh mom, everyone does it".


When I was her age, only

 

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Registered: 10-31-2007
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 1:50pm
lmao



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Registered: 05-19-2007
Tue, 12-04-2007 - 5:45pm
I explained about shaving "down there" to my dd when I explained about legs and underarms...I explained that a lot of women only shave the bikini area but I do shave all of mine because it is more comfortable for me personally and I explained all that to her at the time shaving came about.....I admit there was some odd looks on her face when we talked about the shaving "down there" part but explained it all and suggested that when time came for her to shave that area then she should try to just trim and see if she was comfortable that way or if she needed to shave more...I just left it at what ever is most comfortable for you...I personally get aggravated with the hair "down there" so I shave it all...it feels cleaner to me....but my grandmother noticed it once and brought it up, I told her it felt cleaner to me and she said...well I don't do that and i am clean...LOL....so I guess its just one of those preference things and you have to tell them all the options and let them shave how it is most comfortable for them.....also...my Bf..keeps himself groomed down there with scissors...I appreciate the gesture so maybe men should share the "down there" discussion too....LoL

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