I hope you don't mind me asking this question here,
Up here by Chicago, they card untill you look like you're over 50.
Here's a link to the different underage drinking laws.
Here in IL it was OK for the boys to have a drink with us in our home but NOT out in a restaurant. I can vouch for the Wisconsin law; last year after Hailey died and after Justin and his ex went to talk to the pastor about the memorial we went out for dinner. Justin was only 19 but we ordered him a beer and no one batted an eye. Here in IL it's only been the last 6 months or so that Jason (almost 24) doesn't get carded, even when he's with us.
That's pretty surprising--that definitely isn't legal here.
I live in Wisconsin too, and I'm familiar with the "Parents who host loose the most" campaign.
I am so sorry about your son's struggles. I can't imagine what horrors he must have seen in Afghanistan. I'm sure many soldiers must have to find ways to cope with their demons.
Your point about unmonitored exposure to alcohol is a good one. The teenage brain is much more susceptible to addiction than at any other
Do not do this.
Thank you all so much for your replies, I really appreciate them all.
They're wrong, pretty stupid, but that's their problem.