almost had a heart attack this morn..

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almost had a heart attack this morn..
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Sat, 03-04-2006 - 10:22am

THey need to get an "angry, fuming so badly that I want to kill someone" emoticon because "angry" does not begin to explain how I feel right now.

My DD, 14 (not so) is in so much trouble right now, I can't even see straight.
SHe has a myspace.com account. SO do I, to monitor what she does on it, she knows I monitor it, because I made her put me on her friends list. See, I am smart and very obvious in my actions regarding her. When she goes on late night, I check it early morning and find next to her picture, the phrase "It's not rape if you like it".

She is freaking 14 years old and and....oh I am at a loss for words....
I got her password and am changing her entire my space.com account. Can't delete the account but will delete all contents I need the internet for school and my own social things but she will have no access to it for a long time.

LARK

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Sat, 03-04-2006 - 1:29pm
I'm sorry lark - it's not easy staying one step ahead of these kids, is it?
Pam
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Registered: 08-17-2005
Mon, 03-06-2006 - 5:01pm

It seems like you're in a pretty good position to take dd aside, show her the picture and ask, "What is the *&$!@ meaning of this?" (but keep the ^%#!@ out of it). I think its truly amazing that she would post that knowing that you monitor. Others have said that kids sometimes "brag" on these accounts, and that you can't always take everything you read on them seriously. I would be interested in seeing what her reaction is....keep us posted.

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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 6:57pm
You know she's 14 when she writes stuff like that because she has no clue how serious that subject matter is. Looks like an opportunity to discuss with her the boundaries between a "joke" and just plain poor taste and lack of judgement. I monitor my dd's stuff too and so far there's been nothing to alarm me about her conduct but I have been alarmed by some of the stuff her friends post and say. And I use those occasions to discuss with my daughter what it is I find inappropriate about them...
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Mon, 03-06-2006 - 7:23pm

UPDATE.....AND IT ISN'T PRETTY!

SHe now has called and yelled at me for wanting to ground her. I blew it all out of proportion. Only her friends see that. Ummm. NO it's on her front page, evey pervert that searches can see it. She does not want to live with me anymore and live with her father.
I told her to go ahead and try to change the custody. When I show the hard copy printouts of her site, that judgge will whole heartedly look at her and laugh in her and her father's face. Discipline and grounding her from the computer is the least I am doing to her. I can't type anymore. I get her and the other kids from her father's in about 2 hours. I'll give you guys an update tomorrow.

Please any prayers my way sure would be kind.

LARK

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Registered: 03-03-2006
Mon, 03-06-2006 - 7:59pm

Sorry you are having problems with your DD, but I guess that is what drew me to this board. My DD is behaving like so many other teens are who have been discussed here lately. Anyway, my DD has a "My Space" account, but it is password protected and I do not know how to monitor it either with or without her consent. She showed it to me once and I had her change some things on it, but I have no idea if she changed it back to the way it was (hopefully not, as I explained to her at the time that it was not wise to share too much personal stuff on the internet). My DD also yells at me when I catch her at stuff. Yesterday she told me to "go to h___", but later apologized for it. . Discipline always seems to be such a balancing act, doesn't it?

Amelia

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Mon, 03-06-2006 - 10:51pm
If your dd has a myspace that is password protected my suggestion would be that you either make her give you her password or remove her computer privileges (removing the mouse and/or keyboard and/or power cord workds very well).
Pam
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Registered: 04-02-2003
Tue, 03-07-2006 - 11:03am

thses kids....


sending you lots of hugs. hang strong... let us know how its going

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Registered: 10-21-2005
Tue, 03-07-2006 - 4:30pm
It looks like she needs a little time to mature before she can handle the whole myspace thing. I don't blame you for being upset and I hope it helped to vent.
jt
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Registered: 11-18-2003
Tue, 03-07-2006 - 5:29pm

Oh yeah, that definately deserves some major grounding.

Mily