Am I a hypocrit?
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| Tue, 06-12-2007 - 1:31pm |
My dd is 13, and we are very open with each other. I know everything about her and her friends. The rule in our house is that if she has Myspace and email, then I get the passwords. And she knows I look at them. She and her friends even show me things. Anway, I had my dd when I just turned 18 - still in high school and not married. We've been talking a lot about premarital sex, because a friend of her's older sister got pg and had an abortion just recently. I lectured her about sex as a teen and how I'm against abortion. But she knows that I had her young and unmarried. And she even brings that up - not argumentatively. I just tell her that it was very difficult, and I would not have made it with out my grandparents (they raised me). I live with them until my dd was 2 yrs old. But I don't know that I have the "right" to lecture her about teen sex. What do you all think? I'm sure there are lots out there like me - who didn't exactly wait until I was married. What do you tell your teens?
Edited to correct spelling
Edited 6/12/2007 1:50 pm ET by times4

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I don't agree with the "do as I say, not as I do" philosophy to life.
<<< But you're right to a point (imho)--drugs or alcohol IS worse for a growing body.>>>
And for a brain that's not developed yet.
<<< If smoking pot isn't wrong or okay to help with the emotional pain she has, why does she think it's not okay for her son? >>>
Would you want your kid smoking pot? At what age would you draw the line?
<<< And I feel horribly for your friend to be in so much emotional pain that she smokes pot. >>>
Really? Cause your main concern is that she's in so much pain that she's smoking pot? She's in so much pain because she lost her child. Sheesh, smoking pot is the least of her problems.
zz
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Yes, I did bring my friend up. Your point?
<< And since she is also talking about it, who knows when or what authorites are going to find out. >>
Yep. Smoking the occasional joint at home will surely bring the law breaking down your door, lol.
<<< So, I would question to why she thinks it is 'ok' for her and not him. >>>
Those reasons were given in my first post on the subject. Maybe you should re-read.
<<< I am sure being arrested, tried, or going to jail will be such a comfort to both her and her ds at this time of loss.... >>>
There's no comfort to be had, period. A quick trip to jail (which is so unlikely it's funny) is not going to be that traumatic, considering all that's happened.
But hey, I sure hope you don't lose a child, cause you might fall off that judgemental tower you're standing on right now.
zz -- who's leaving this thread because there is surely not any compassion for my friend here
>><<< And I feel horribly for your friend to be in so much emotional pain that she smokes pot. >>>
Really? Cause your main concern is that she's in so much pain that she's smoking pot? She's in so much pain because she lost her child. Sheesh, smoking pot is the least of her problems.>>
Then I apologize for putting words in your mouth.
zz
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