Am I wrong to say no?
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| Wed, 02-15-2006 - 1:55pm |
This seems like such a stupid thing. But I have to ask...
DD is a 15-year-old-sophomore. She hasn't been on a "real" date. Although we have allowed her to go to school dances and social outings with groups of friends. She went to homecoming with a young man from her class. She has been to a couple of parties, but unless we know the parents, we haven't allowed her to go (and she hasn't asked).
The "Sadie Hawkins" dance is coming up this weekend. She asked a boy she has been "smittened" with for a long time. He accepted the invitation, we bought a dress and shoes. She was so excited.
Yesterday, she came home to tell us that instead of going to the dance, he is having a party at his house, which she will be attending. We said, "no".
We said, "no", because, we told her she could go to a school dance, which didn't include a party. She also didn't ask...she told us. We don't know who will be at the party, or why this boy planned to have people over after she asked him to go to the dance. We think it was rude, and inconsideriate of him to expect that this would be OK with her and with us.
Of course, she is only interested in spending time with him...she doesn't care, where. I am second guessing myself because I don't have a real firm or even good reason for my response to her. The boy is a nice kid, but I just can't get past the idea that he made other plans after accepting her invitation.
Am I wrong?
Julie

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I agree with Shels. Perfectly worded.
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