And the kiddo makes three...

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And the kiddo makes three...
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Thu, 06-23-2011 - 12:40pm

Okay..so I know I have ranted, raved and carried on about my oldest ds who is about to turn 19 before...the last time I was here, he had moved into an undesirable living situation with friends, and I was complaining about that! Well, there are times we really should count our blessings! It really wasn't *that* bad! Hind sight really is 20 20! Now ds has met a young woman I will call *T* and *T* is four years older than ds and is divorced, living at home with her mom, and has a four year old ds. It gets even better.

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Sun, 06-26-2011 - 10:00pm

Most gals have done baby sitting whereas most guys have not.

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Sat, 06-25-2011 - 8:30pm

Well I never did babysitting since I was never that interested in kids before I had my own.

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Sat, 06-25-2011 - 9:05am

I don't know Kimmybabe, Tim has done quite a lot of babysitting over the years... at least with toddlers.

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Sat, 06-25-2011 - 12:59am

Dd did baby sitting.

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Sat, 06-25-2011 - 12:01am

Hey Rose and Sabrtooth, be sure to have the video camera running when the new dads do the dipper change the first time.

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Fri, 06-24-2011 - 4:09pm
Tell your son to tread VERY CAREFULLY with the little girl. We know foster and adoptees, and kids in those situations can become VERY touchy-feely. Which is the LAST thing a MAN needs, with a child that isn't his. This could be a disaster. Tell him to be kind, but DO NOT TOUCH HER. AT ALL.
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Fri, 06-24-2011 - 3:39pm

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So true this... my bio DS 26 (not the one that was living with us, who is my foster DS) has been seeing a young woman who is 23 for the last year or so, she has a child who is 8 months old, and the fact that she has a child doesn't seem to bother DS at all.

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Fri, 06-24-2011 - 9:56am
Hi Music...this is what dh says, that ds will grow tired of the little guy. That is my concern that there is a revolving door of *daddies*, and if that is the case really sad:( Thinking back when I got divorced from the childrens dad, and I met dh, we dated for a good six months before he was ever introduced to the children, so I don't understand that mentality of moving guys in right away when there are small children involved.
I guess her mom has a partner, and the partner has an adopted five year old daughter who just adores ds, and whenever ds is there follows him everwhere and wants his contant attention because he is a father figure of sorts. Since his the only male in the household. Ds was telling us the little girl drives him up the wall, and he doesn't know what to do with her most of the time.
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Fri, 06-24-2011 - 9:50am
Hi Rose...I agree, we don't give any money, and he has never asked for any for the two of them..she works full-time as well. I completely understand your situation with your dd and even your ds. Yes, I think this girl is basically a good girl, she met a guy when she was young, got pregnant and it didn't work out, it happens to many, that doesn't make her a bad person by any means. If my son were older, late 20's it wouldn't be so bad, it's just the fact that he is barely 19, and he seems to do whatever she tells him to do, even what to wear. His entire style of dress has changed..she likes cowboys and he now wears wranglers and cowboy hats, and he used to wear Nikes and Hollister, so quite a drastic change! But as long as he is happy I guess that is all that matters, I am st arting to ramble! Yes, deep breath is very correct! Thank you for listening.
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Fri, 06-24-2011 - 9:44am
Oh Pam! Don't think that isn't one of my fears! It could easily happen to ds! Yes, he did quit his job at the convenience store...the manager told him he needed to see a doctor for his ADD. So from there ds got a job painting houses, but seemed to have difficulty getting paid, which was a huge fiasco with him getting overdrawn on his bank account, not having enough gas money etc. Now his gf has gotten him a job landscaping which he actually gets paid, so hopefully this will work out better. We had ds put a lock on his account where he can't use his bank card if he doesn't have any money in it, so that should help as well..*sigh*. No hopefully no children will be made anytime in the near future, ds can barely care for himeself!

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