Another Gift Question

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Registered: 12-22-2003
Another Gift Question
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Sun, 12-11-2005 - 11:00am

DD has a male friend at school. She noticed him standing alone the first week and introduced herself to him. Since then, the boy has attached himself to DD and stuck -- seems to have few other friends. He is a permanent fixture at her locker and DD says she feels like she is being stalked. They have lunch together 2-3 times a week.

We went out and chose dozens of little $1 items (lip balms, bath fizzes, little purse-sized notebooks, etc.) for her to give to her female friends. She plans to put a couple or three items in cellophane gift bags and hand them out next week.

The boy gave her a VERY generous gift card for B&N for her BDAY. I think DD ought to get him SOMETHING for Christmas. She doesn't really want to because she doesn't want to lead him on or encourage him but also recognizes that it would be pretty rude for him to see her with her bag of goodies, not have something for him and to just pretend he wasn't there.

What would you do? In similar circumstances, would you insist your DD give the boy a gift? If so, what would you have her give? I don't especially want to go the gift card route because I feel like we'd have to at least match the $$ amount of the one her gave her for her bday, which could send all sorts of messages that could be misconstrued.

Thanks in advance!

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Registered: 12-22-2003
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 11:24am

It was a gift card inside a bday card. She didn't know the gift card was inside, so when she opened the card (in his presence) it fell out. She didn't want to seem rude by looking at the amount, gave her thank you's, but didn't look closely at the amount until she got home much later that day.

It was for $30. IMO, generous for a teen, generous for someone you've only known for a couple months, but not so extravagant that I felt she needed to return it.

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Registered: 09-07-2005
Tue, 12-13-2005 - 7:36pm

Oh ok, I thought you meant big money, like $200 or something.

Sorry,
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