If your kids are prone to 'pushing your buttons' and you're already feeling anxious about going back home, then I would most certainly take a moment or two and just mention to them that you'd really appreciate their highest cooperation during the visit. I think it's okay to remind them that this is your first visit home since your parent's passed on and you expect them to be respectful of that.
IMO, there is nothing wrong with letting your kids know that you're human and vulnerable at times. You don't always have to the be the pillar of strength and your kids are old enough to be considerate of mom for a change rather than you always worrying about how they are faring, kwim?
I have been in situations where I have told my girls "this is difficult for me - please go out of your way to help me out today" and they oblige without any problem. Turning the tables and allowing your child to be more sensitive to YOUR needs, IMO, is a great lesson for their future. As they grow up they will realize that the world is not centered around them and their needs. They also need to realize that their parents are human and have feelings and sometimes aren't as strong as they've known them to be.
Yes, if you're this worried about it, by all means, tell them. Happy Thanksgiving.
If your kids are prone to 'pushing your buttons' and you're already feeling anxious about going back home, then I would most certainly take a moment or two and just mention to them that you'd really appreciate their highest cooperation during the visit. I think it's okay to remind them that this is your first visit home since your parent's passed on and you expect them to be respectful of that.
IMO, there is nothing wrong with letting your kids know that you're human and vulnerable at times. You don't always have to the be the pillar of strength and your kids are old enough to be considerate of mom for a change rather than you always worrying about how they are faring, kwim?
I have been in situations where I have told my girls "this is difficult for me - please go out of your way to help me out today" and they oblige without any problem. Turning the tables and allowing your child to be more sensitive to YOUR needs, IMO, is a great lesson for their future. As they grow up they will realize that the world is not centered around them and their needs. They also need to realize that their parents are human and have feelings and sometimes aren't as strong as they've known them to be.
Yes, if you're this worried about it, by all means, tell them. Happy Thanksgiving.