Is anyone still tight w/their teen?
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| Tue, 03-06-2007 - 4:31pm |
I read and hear all this stuff about how teens separate from their parents, how they are off in their own world, how disinterested they become in family life, and how they can go weeks at a time barely talking (much less smiling) at home.
As a 24/7 single parent of one kid, my kid has been a huge part of my life. And although he can be quite a butthead at times, he can also be wonderful company.
So I'm wondering, is this really what I have to look forward too? Or is this just a stereotype? Do some still continue to have good relationships with/enjoy the company of their families while learning how to be independent?
I don't mean to sound like I expect him to be my little date or something weird. But with only one kid and no real other family (except my own mom), I'm just realizing how hard this will be for me to adjust. I'm trying to prepare myself for what might lie ahead.

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I have a really close relationship with my two children, even though they have pulled away some. Connor is a freshman in college and he isn't at home, but he does come down everyonce in awhile and we e-mail and talk on the phone a lot. I actually think that we have gotten somewhat closer with our seperation because we used to fight a lot living under the same roof, but now we don't even when he comes home. I have noticed though that when he does come home for breaks he does spend time with the family, but he would still wants to see his friends.
Madison is my 16 year old daughter who has definately rebelled this past year. Despite slip ups though we are still very close. I have learned to understand that Friday and Saturday nights after dinner are hers and she will be with her friends, but we still spend a lot of time together. We are a lot in common so we share a lot of activities together.
Ive learned to adjust. Just make sure you all make time for each other.
Adelaide
was it always like this and do I expect it to stay that way, not really, and yes.
We have what you call a revolving door. we are as my inlaws call me, the wayward hom for kids and pets. My DH says hes going to charge admission at the door and sell meal tickets.
My 13 yo DS has a friend that spends almost every weekend here. My 10 year old has a friend that we call our step daughter becuase she is here every weekend. Drives my DH insane. He spends alot of time at the golf course!:)
MY DD went through it would be great to live at my dads house, till she met him again for the first time in 13 years., Then she said, if I lived with him, I would be messed up within 6 months.
My 13yo has talked about living with his dad whom he sees regularly. Draw back, step mom of 11 years would probably divorce his dad if this happened. But when he gets older, if he really truly wants that, well....I dont know. But he is a moms boy, he wont admit it. But he calls during the summer cause he misses everyone here.
I would rather have all the kids hang out here than elsewhere because I know where they are, what they are doing. My 17 yo, I tell her she is so close to her friends because they ar as messed up as the rest of us, most from broken homes, no adult supervision. But every single one of them respects this house and If I say no she cant, that is law. She had one BF that quit seeing her because I wouldnt let her take off to the lake for a gradualtion party. well one, its 20 miles away, 2 we just moved here, 3 drinking? Im sure there would be, 4 she cant swim. She just said, oh well your loss.
She got a cell phone pre paid for christmas, she pays her own time on it and she knows to call and check in etc. she goes with her friends, and lord help us getting her drivers license. But we are very close.
I lost my mom in december and while I was out of town taking care of things she wanted to call me from work because she missed our after school time. I always take the time to find out how their day was and etc.
Is life rosy.. HA nope. THere are still meltdowns, screaming, huffing and puffing.. and thats just me, they are worse:) But it can be great! anyway.. long windded.. sorry...susie
I think I might be closer to my ds17 than my dd15 b/c we are much more alike.
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