Appropiate or Not

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Registered: 12-11-2006
Appropiate or Not
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Sun, 09-09-2007 - 5:23pm
I came down stairs last night to my 17 year old daughter and her boyfriend under the same blanket on the couch. I told her that I didn't want her to do that and it wasn't appropriate. She laughed as if I was out of my mind. My 15 year old backed her up. Any thoughts? Thanks.
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Registered: 02-10-2006
In reply to: ctdv
Sun, 09-09-2007 - 7:03pm
Ahhhhhhhhhhhhh...the blanket move...know it well;) I don't think your gut feeling is unreasonble at all. Did you confront her right then? How long have they been dating? Personally I think you have done well to not have had to deal with this situation until she is 17. If they are in a family common area, what can they actually do?
Possibly this can be a springboard for a more detailed discussion of what your expectations are for her dating behavior.
Good luck
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Registered: 12-16-2003
In reply to: ctdv
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 12:09am
I am with you mom! It is your house, they may think you are crazy, but you are the adult and the owner fo the house.

Ramona  Mom to 2 great kids and wife to one wonderful hubby since 1990!

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Registered: 04-02-2003
In reply to: ctdv
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 12:46am

LOL - have I ever mentioned how our first son was conceived?

You are right - BUT I think it is semi ok with people completely around - not ok with no one around AND the younger dd of course backed her... she is the next one under the blanket. Don't get sucked into their "not fully developed yet" brain's thinking. Trust your gut!

Courtney

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Registered: 10-24-2006
In reply to: ctdv
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 7:02am
I agree with you. My dd(16) tried to pull that too. I have a one person per blanket rule at our house.
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Registered: 08-25-2000
In reply to: ctdv
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 10:03am
I agree with you mom!
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Registered: 12-11-2006
In reply to: ctdv
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 11:17am
Thanks Everyone for your input. I love coming to the table with some ammo. It is, in a sense, a war and I think I win this battle :-). They have been dating a year and a half and I just wish she would venture out. She is a HS Senior and going away to college in a year so I am just going to wait it out. Thanks again. One person per blanket...love it.
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Registered: 08-17-2005
In reply to: ctdv
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 11:27am

I guess I'm going to go against what everyone else has said, which shocks me.

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Registered: 07-22-2003
In reply to: ctdv
Mon, 09-10-2007 - 11:08pm
I'm somewhat with Marie on this one. I don't have a problem with the blanket, as long as they aren't all over each other and preferable have their hands in sight. I would however have a problem if they were all touchy feely under there.
BUT the point isn't what I think the point is that this mom says no and that is her rule, so they should abide by it. I really don't think you are asking too much.
Kristie
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