I don't know how old your sons are, but from their picture, it looks like they are old enough to fend for themselves for a few days. They might even develop an appreciation for some of the things you do for them. I think I would have gone crazy not having a vacation w/o the kids for so long. I actually think it's important for the marriage for parents to have some time alone to recharge.
Your boys are old enough to take care of themselves for a few days. Your oldest is in college now. They are bright young men. Try not to worry. They will have phone #s they can use to reach you. You can ask a neighbor (or relative or trusted friend) to "check up" on them,if need be. It will be fine.
Oh My! I am so envious - have fun!! And no, of course you're not bad parents...in fact, I think parents need to stuff like this so they can recharge thier batteries.
You guys have had a hard year..........I'm also looking forward to 2007! Have fun.
Oh gosh no, Pam! After what your year has been like, you both need a break to rest and relax. I'm sure you have friends and neighbors that will keep tabs on the boys for you, and will be available should anything out of the ordinary arise.
I've been to Mexico a number of times, various places (Cancun included) and actually met DH in Huatulco 18 years ago ... nearly to the day!
I'll share a funny story with you. When the kids were little (5 and 3?) DH and I went scuba diving in Cozumel for a long weekend, to celebrate my birthday. MIL and FIL stayed at our house with the kids. When we came home, DS said to me "Momma, I missed you so much when you were gone, I went into your closet and hugged your dresses!"
Go have some fun! Rest, relax, soak up some some and drink margaritas -- but don't forget to leave out some of your dresses!
P.S. The ruins of Tulum and Chichzen Itza (sp?) are a really fascinating day trip!
YOU GO GIRL....The boys will be fine. You might find a break will do them good too! My kids always appreciate us more when we go away. It also gives everyone some breathing space. They're definitely old enough to take care of themselves.
You and your DH are wonderful parents! You've raised two wonderful, responsible boys - and more than deserve some time away together.
I know you're a little scared about Jason - and maybe there's a way to lessen your anxiety - talk with him, have a friend you both agree on for him to check in with (as much for him as for you), plan meals with him ahead of time, etc.
As for Justin, it seems like a perfect time for him to test out his ability to be independent. With college not that far away, it could be a little experiment/test.
Pam, you are definitely not bad parents. I think kids need to see that their parents are people too and want to enjoy things a little bit every now and then. I also think they need to see that their parents value their marriage and occassionally put a little priority there as well.
Is Jason still under a doctor's care or still in counseling? If he is, you might want to try to schedule a visit while your gone that way he will have someone to be held accountable to while at the same time letting him know that you trust him enough to let him have this level of independence. I think it will be good for him.
I don't recall you ever saying that Justin had problems managing his homework and school activities so I doubt it will be much different (okay a little maybe but not much).
Why is it that good parents worry constantly about being terrible parents and terrible parents believe what they are doing is right?
Go enjoy, have someone keep an eye on the house to ensure no parties get out of control. I've been married 31 yrs & have 3 kids, we have always made time for a couple of days/year alone. It reminds you that you married each other not the kids. Now the kids are grown & my youngest is about to leave his teen years and we are still enjoying each other.
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Of course not! You need the break.
Your boys are old enough to take care of themselves for a few days. Your oldest is in college now. They are bright young men. Try not to worry.
They will have phone #s they can use to reach you. You can ask a neighbor (or relative or trusted friend) to "check up" on them,if need be. It will be fine.
Have fun and try to relax.
Oh My! I am so envious - have fun!! And no, of course you're not bad parents...in fact, I think parents need to stuff like this so they can recharge thier batteries.
You guys have had a hard year..........I'm also looking forward to 2007! Have fun.
Oh gosh no, Pam! After what your year has been like, you both need a break to rest and relax. I'm sure you have friends and neighbors that will keep tabs on the boys for you, and will be available should anything out of the ordinary arise.
I've been to Mexico a number of times, various places (Cancun included) and actually met DH in Huatulco 18 years ago ... nearly to the day!
I'll share a funny story with you. When the kids were little (5 and 3?) DH and I went scuba diving in Cozumel for a long weekend, to celebrate my birthday. MIL and FIL stayed at our house with the kids. When we came home, DS said to me "Momma, I missed you so much when you were gone, I went into your closet and hugged your dresses!"
Go have some fun! Rest, relax, soak up some some and drink margaritas -- but don't forget to leave out some of your dresses!
P.S. The ruins of Tulum and Chichzen Itza (sp?) are a really fascinating day trip!
If you're terrible parents, then so are we!
NO!!
You and your DH are wonderful parents! You've raised two wonderful, responsible boys - and more than deserve some time away together.
I know you're a little scared about Jason - and maybe there's a way to lessen your anxiety - talk with him, have a friend you both agree on for him to check in with (as much for him as for you), plan meals with him ahead of time, etc.
As for Justin, it seems like a perfect time for him to test out his ability to be independent. With college not that far away, it could be a little experiment/test.
GO.....RELAX....ENJOY
((((HUGS))))
Pam, you are definitely not bad parents. I think kids need to see that their parents are people too and want to enjoy things a little bit every now and then. I also think they need to see that their parents value their marriage and occassionally put a little priority there as well.
Is Jason still under a doctor's care or still in counseling? If he is, you might want to try to schedule a visit while your gone that way he will have someone to be held accountable to while at the same time letting him know that you trust him enough to let him have this level of independence. I think it will be good for him.
I don't recall you ever saying that Justin had problems managing his homework and school activities so I doubt it will be much different (okay a little maybe but not much).
Have a wonderful time!!
Why is it that good parents worry constantly about being terrible parents and terrible parents believe what they are doing is right?
Go enjoy, have someone keep an eye on the house to ensure no parties get out of control. I've been married 31 yrs & have 3 kids, we have always made time for a couple of days/year alone. It reminds you that you married each other not the kids. Now the kids are grown & my youngest is about to leave his teen years and we are still enjoying each other.
Dee
"Why is it that good parents worry constantly about being terrible parents and terrible parents believe what they are doing is right?"
Good point!
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