attempted (but failed) abduction (OT?)

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attempted (but failed) abduction (OT?)
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Wed, 02-22-2006 - 1:24pm

Hi everyone,
It's been awhile since I've been on this board - I changed jobs a few months ago which limited my access.

Anyway, you guys are the first place I thought to go for some advice, which may be considered off topic since it isn't necessarily teen related.

Here's the story:
A few weeks ago, my 10yo SD was waiting at the bus stop and was approached by this older man - about 60yo. He stopped his car and asked her and her friend to 'help him open his trunk because it was stuck'. She did the absolute right thing and put 2+2 together, yelled to her friend and they both ran to their homes. A lady nearby saw the events and called the police. He was found near the car, the backseats were turned down and there was duct tape in the car. He was arrested for luring and attempt to abduct.

SD is fine, though was somewhat shaken and scared that morning, she was praised for doing the right thing and was fine by day end (while all the adults dealt with the corresponding anxiety and heart attacks that come with hearing that your kid was almost abducted). Remember that these things don't always happen to someone else. Always keep an eye on your kids.

Anyway, today another article comes out in the paper stating that he confessed to wanting to rape them. The authorities are doing all the right things and have escalated his charges to attempted rape and attempted kidnapping. He seems to have psychological problems, not sure how that will play into this. Personally, I don't care if he goes to jail or a psych ward, just as long as he stays off the streets and out of the community.

So, I come out of my hibernation (and risk a slap on the hand if anyone catches me on this site from work) to ask all of you wise mom's and dad's for some advice.

My DH (SD's bioDad) is, clearly, beside himself - as is, of course, her bioMom.

DH doesn't know how to approach this with SD and/or if (or when) counseling for her might be warranted. While yes, my own emotions are playing havoc on me because I love my SD very much and the thought of her being hurt like this is emotionally jarring, to say the least, I understand that I need to be there for my DH as well as my SD.

Any wise words?
Thanks to all...
Anne

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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 9:28am
Thanks Mily - she is doing better, now that she knows he's locked up for a few years.
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Thu, 02-23-2006 - 12:11pm

I'm glad he is locked up and she is doing better. Us adults kept talking about it after it happened to my dd and her friend, and my daughter finally said - "Can we not talk about this anymore?" Enough said. I told her that if she ever had questions or wanted to talk about it I would be happy to do so, but if she didn't want to talk about it, that was ok too. It has been 2 years and so far, so good. We made sure she knew how proud of her we were that she was quick and smart.

Jill

Mom to Emily (18), Conor (17) and Hannah (12)
Wife to David - 8/20/88

 

 

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Registered: 12-22-2003
Thu, 02-23-2006 - 12:20pm

This is such a scary story. I had to share it with my 14yo DD today. She told me a while back that she and a group of girls who all hang out together after school go walking and/or jogging on the hiking/biking trails that are easily accessible from her school campus. I didn't think much about it until today.

I've been driving her to school all this week (DH usually does it) and when she pointed out the area off campus where the trails actually meet, it was further a distance from school than I realized and further a distance than I am comfortable with. I was very happy to hear that she and her friends never leave the campus alone and some girls won't even go on the hikes unless there are at least three in the group. I'm just so thankful to have heard that the girls she hangs out with appear to be level headed young ladies.

Sending more good wishes and positive thoughts your way,

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