Awesome shopping trip!

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Awesome shopping trip!
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Sat, 03-17-2007 - 10:10pm

The shopping trip that I have been dreading for the past month has now officially come and gone, and it was one of my best days in months!

I took N, DD 15 shopping in a city about 60 miles away to look for a prom dress this afternoon. She is always so picky about her clothes, and had a vision of the "perfect" prom dress, I was sure this was going to be a nightmare. BUT I was pleasantly surprised. She only had to try on 7 dresses before finding the "perfect" one, which will need slight alterations in order to fit right, something I can do in 1/2 hour or less some evening. She managed to look past the number/size on the tag for the first time in ages in order to choose something that fit her well... she normally wears either 7/8 or 9/10 (she's 5'9"), but was able to look beyond the size 14 on the tag when she found one that she loved that mostly fit well - woo hoo for her! We were able to get the dress, shoes, jewelry, and a tie for T that matches her dress in about an hour.

And, in the 2 1/2 hours we spent on the road today, I "learned" many new things, including:

-Relying on just the pill isn't very smart, you always gotta use something else too.

-A girl has gotta make sure she keeps spending time with her g/fs even when she has a b/f, coz otherwise, who are you gonna do girl stuff with? And who are you gonna have if, heaven forbid, you break up with your b/f if you've been ignoring all your g/fs??

-N's friends can't figure out why she thinks T is "such a hottie", they say he's only average looking at best, and slightly worse than average on his bad days. N is pretty sure that he's "such a hottie" coz she's in love with his personality and not his physique. And besides, he treats her like she's the best girl in the world!

-T told her that she shouldn't just limit her choices of colleges to places he can go see her on a regular basis, she should go where she would do best and be happiest. If they're still dating when she goes to college, they'll figure out a way - but he's pretty sure they'll still be dating then. (He has no desire to go to a 4 year college, is maybe thinking about a technical school, which is really more down his alley.)

-"friends" who try to make trouble between you and your b/f really aren't your friends at all. A smart girl doesn't listen to them.

-You gotta let your b/f spend time with his friends and his mom without you. He's more fun when he comes back from those times.

-Be nice to your b/f's little sister... she'll be less of a pain in your butt that way!

So that's words of wisdom from N - I was actually rather impressed, she usually comes off as less thoughtful than this.

Just thought I'd share... I'm still glowing from our day together, even though at the moment, N is off with her "hottie" - they were "ordered" to clean their gecko cages tonight by his mom. N's gecko is living at T's house for now, coz we don't have anywhere to keep it that is safe from our cats. T's mom is quite a woman - she even lets them keep wax worms (gecko food) in her fridge! LOL
Rose

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Registered: 07-19-2003
Sat, 03-17-2007 - 11:07pm

That sounds like so much fun!!! Its great to have this bonding time together isn't it? Funny how for us females bonding = shopping!

I know what you mean about finding a perfect dress. My dd had a semi-formal event to attend last week and after trying everything she had in her closet and finding out nothing fit, we had to run out to the mall on the same day as the party. She tried on 5 different dresses before landing on the perfect one. And it was perfect. My dd has a different issue ie she is super-petite. She wears a size 2 and not alot of stores keep size 2 dresses in stock. So alot of what she tried on was too big or she'd be encouraged to try on something strapless or really low cut and with very small breasts they didn't flatter her at all.

Today we did more shopping needing to get her a bra. She wears a 32A. The lingerie stores just don't stock alot of bras that small. Even the biggest lingerie chain in Canada with a large variety of styles only has two or three styles that come in that size.

But we've had a blast shopping for one thing or another the last couple of weeks. I just love having her around. As she gets older its far less stressful to shop together. I'm not having to watch her every minute to ensure we don't get separated for one thing!!!

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Registered: 11-13-2004
Sun, 03-18-2007 - 1:04am

Congrats Rose.
Your girl is growing up. Impressive insights and observations from your 15 yr old.
Good plan on the shopping trip, and it's given me some ideas.
Maybe a long drive to the Mall of America for some spring shopping?

Oh... and by the way, I'd take waxies in the fridge any day of the week. When DS had his pet snake, I had mice in the freezer. DW went nuts.....

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Registered: 10-16-1999
Sun, 03-18-2007 - 8:58am
Eeeewwww.... mice in the freezer??? Definitely a step or two worse than waxies in the fridge. I'm with your DW!
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Sun, 03-18-2007 - 9:26am

Speaking of 32-A's! One of my most horrifying experiences of youth was when I came home from college and my mother took me shopping. The saleslady at one store announced very very loudly (the entire store must have heard her) that they didn't carry bras that small! I couldn't run out fast enough!

I was also a size 2-4. Haha! Wish I could say that now!

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Registered: 11-13-2004
Sun, 03-18-2007 - 10:28am

LOL..
They were "pet store" white mice harvested specifically for this. Even though they were disease free, the appearance was something of an appetite suppressor... :-)

The things we do for our kids......

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Registered: 12-14-2006
Sun, 03-18-2007 - 4:09pm

What a great day - both the shopping and the bonding. I love days like this with my DD - all sorts of wisdom comes out when we're alone (especially if I don't ask, and pretend to only half-listen). N sounds like a smart girl - and T sounds like he's got a good head on his shoulders.

I had a similar trip with my DD - a dreaded Sweet 16 dress - she actually love the fourth dress she tried on - and we only had to go to one store! IKWIM about not reading labels. I know my DD is in a good place, body-image wise, when she doeosn't care if the labeled size is too big!

YAY

Sue

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Registered: 03-06-2006
Sun, 03-18-2007 - 6:55pm

I'm glad you enjoyed your day. C and I had a brilliant shopping trip last week, too! Nothing so wise or profound came from her mouth, however ... other than "I just LOVE this skirt with these shoes!"

Considering that she and I have been known to spend an afternoon shopping and come home with little more than socks, the fact we came home with several outfits was a miracle in itself. Thankfully, we shopped at Forever 21, so we got some great bargains!

 

 

 

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Registered: 02-14-2000
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 9:13am
Sounds like a great time, rose.
Pam
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Registered: 10-16-1999
Mon, 03-19-2007 - 1:18pm
LOL Pam, sounds like my DSs!
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Mon, 03-19-2007 - 3:05pm

I know you've told me before that there is no music playing in your car (to encourage these talks...?) because you can't agree on what to listen to, but

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