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| Sat, 02-03-2007 - 6:53pm |
Ok, so dd's bf came over yesterday after school. His parents brought him over and dropped him off - apparently they are understanding of the whole mono thing. Of course (as he was telling me when I took him home shortly thereafter) he had to spell out his "plan" to them lol....sitting across the room, no kissing, etc etc Well needless to say, he walked in the house and according to him I gave him a "mean" look - I didn't think I did lol as I told him later, but I did want to him to know the stuff he needed to know about mono...after that he went in her room, sat across the room, never touched her and according to dd it was very awkward. Needless to say, after about 20 mins dd had enough and told him to leave...I took him home. Apparently, as soon as I left, she was bawling. As soon as I dropped him off, he started calling - in the 10 mins it takes me to get from his house to mine he called my house phone 7 times and her cell 5 times - she wouldn't talk to him. Long story short, she tried to break up with him - again, and he wouldn't let her. He kept telling her he didn't care about the mono, didn't care if he got it - he still wanted to be w/ her as before....
Fast forward to today, dd was feeling much better. She had wanted to go to her cheering competition, but it was too far away and didn't want the mono to hit her like a ton of bricks again, so I relented and told her I will take her to bf's track meet. We go there and he stands like 10 feet away from her to talk and yeah very awkward lol... what's funny is her ex is on the track team too and he came up while we were talking and he went to give dd a hug and she was like "no, don't touch me" and he said "why? because of the mono?" and she said "yeah" and he said "I don't care" and gave her a hug..... didn't phase bf lol... :-/
Bf is having ppl over at his house tomorrow for the Super Bowl - up until the mono it was always understood that dd was going over there, but I'm guessing not now. I've done good and kept my mouth shut *pat on back* but for one small comment to dd on the way home from the meet - "how long are you guys going to treat you like you are poison?" To which I got a shoulder shrug..... she's feeling 100% better, but for the waves of tiredness.
What do I tell these two? lol They are acting like she has mumps or measles or the plague or some terrible disease.... are they being ridiculous or smart?? It's torturing dd though, that much I can tell....
Edited 2/3/2007 6:56 pm ET by kel7col4


I think they are being smart
If hes on the track team, he surely doesnt want to miss the season by catching this(nor do I think his parents want this either)
It's not that it's 'the plague' and. bless her, I hope she isnt feeling this way. But, like chicken pox, you just dont want to risk exposing others IMHO(although I have no BTDT experience)
Mono is funny--my ex had it when we were married and I never got it, despite sleeping in the same bed, etc. We called my ex BIL "mono Tom" because he actually gave it to 3 diff. women. One was a GF he had, then when he was in my wedding party, he got friendly w/ one of the bridesmaids and she got it really bad, then shortly after that, he met his future wife and gave it to her too! Luckily he stopped dating, or who knows? The funny thing is that I don't think Tom actually ever got sick himself, but then both of his brothers (my ex and their other brother) got it.
My DD told me that her friend got mono right after New Year's Eve, and she spent the night over her house. My DD asked me if she should get tested, but I said she probably couldn't get it if they hadn't drunk out of the same glass (i'm not that naive to think that there probably was some drinking going on), but my DD hasn't had a sore throat or any symptoms. My DH, who used to be a nurse, said it's not that contagious if you aren't kissing or sharing a glass. I don't think her BF has to stay 10 ft. away. Besides, if she's on medicine, shouldn't that be killing the germs anyway? When can she go back to school?
Yeah, it's really a weird virus lol... everything I have read about it says "boyfriends/girlfriends/family members rarely get it". Where it is a virus there is no medication for it or it would definitely make things a lot easier! Basically, she can go back to school whenever she feels like it. The school nurse said kids w/ mono are usually out about a week and usually the first week they go back, they end up going home early because they are exhausted. DD has been home exactly a week today. She was running a fever again yesterday, but has been fine today. If she continues to feel okay the rest of the day, she will probably attempt school tomorrow, or maybe the next day, as her fever has been returning every other day.
She ended up flipping out on bf Saturday night after his track meet and asked him how long he was going to treat her like a diseased animal. He felt wicked bad and didn't realize he had been. Yesterday, she ended up "breaking up" with him over it, but he wouldn't accept it, but agreed to a break right before the Super Bowl. That lasted about 8 phone calls and 10 texts messages and by the end of the Super Bowl they were back together. He is actually over right now and they are actually touching and acting "normal" lol so idk....
I know I need to let things run their course - if I have learned anything from this board, that is my mantra - but they were both asking me for advice and I didn't know what to say - that is why I thought I would put it to the wonderful people here :D ... I personally thought they were both being ridiculous about it, as, I believe, if he's gonna get, he's gonna get it. They were inseperable from mid-December until last Sunday (the day she started the symptoms) to where they were together every single day for hours. They are contagious from the moment they are exposed and are most contagious when the symptoms begin. I made the mistake of telling them that she could still spread the virus for up to 6 months after she is "cured" and that is when the ridiculous behavior began. But, being the mother hen I am, I do worry about him getting it.
From what the doc told me when each of my kids had mono, it's not nearly as contagious as people think. You have to actually exchange bodily fluids - you can hug, hold hands (though I would recommend washing them before eating with them), etc. He also told me that most people catch mono at some point in their life - alot of them just don't know they've got it so maybe he's already had it. Most people are contagious a good week before the diagnosis so if they were together then he's already been exposed.
Look up the facts on a reputable Web site like Webmd and sit the kids down and have a talk with them!