Be Aware of the Teacher
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Be Aware of the Teacher
| Thu, 06-21-2007 - 2:39am |
when dd started school down here where we moved her senior year...which was about 8 mos ago....she had this one male teacher she really liked b/c he was funny and playful and he reminded her of my soon to be ex husband....i thought he was too friendly but nothing inapproriate and it was helping her deal with the divorce/ serperation stuff so i just kept my eyes and ears open to be safe.....then right before she graduated she said she wasnt talking and joking with him anymore b/c it seemed like he was always around her in the hall and in class and she thought he acted odd and it was freaking her out a little, so i said do i need to say anything to the school and she said no...im just not going to talk to him much anymore so he wont hang around me so much and still he had not really done anything wrong so i just kept watching and listening, then after she graduated she said he kept calling her and i said if he calls again im calling the school and she said no ill take care of it so he called again and she told him she did not know why he was calling her to stop calling her.....hes also called other girls and one said she thought he got her phone number from her telling another girl in his class....he called dd's friend i know but i think it was only once to ask why dd wasnt answering his calls and thats when she told him to stop calling and text messaging her, then he also told her that scince she was not his student anymore then he thought it was ok to tell her that her picture on her myspace was hot....so i called the school and send the phone records to the princpil and am waiting for some anwsers as to what hes going to do about it, i told him that i thought he needed to make sure to watch him or get rid of him incase he does get a girl that he can charm into whatever it is he is trying to do and also to make sure he doesnt call my child again, she said he has not called scince she told him to leave her alone but im soo angry i just want to track him down and beat his head in for trying to hit on my 17 year old child.....i hope something gets done about it....so i wanted to tell u guys about it so u can watch the teachers that your kids really like and make sure they are not trying to feel them out to see if they are interested like this man was trying to do with my dd.....i know he didnt do anything to her b/c she would have told me but he was trying to see if she was interested i think and hes a 30 yr old man and a teacher and he has no business calling his students or making any inappropiate comments to them, i dont care iof kids are throwing thier phone numbers at him (which my dd did not do, dhe thinks he got it from her friend) he has no business calling children if he wants to dicuss grade he calls parents and thats definately not what mister " it hink ur picture is hot" was calling about....i told her i did this and she got aggrevated but after i explained its my responsiblilty to protect her and our responsibility to let someone know before he does get involved with a child in an inappriate way she said well when im 40 are u still going to not trust me to take care of it myself and i esplained shes not 40 shes 17 and its my job to protect her and i told her i didnt care if she was mad i had to do whats best for her...she said she wasnt mad and then checked her phone to see if she had the number or texts saved but she had already deleted them all and then she told me a few digits of the number she could remmber so i could find it on her phone bill for the principl so i think she understood....so i m waiting to see whats next b/c i already sent the principl all the imfo i had so hopefully he will get fired or they will at least watch him carefully...i might take it to the school board if the the principl doesnt do much but he seems like he will do something....just wanted to let u all know so u could be keeping an eye out for ur kids too.........wish the law said we could beat people like him up...cause sick or not i could take him down with a few punchs and he wouldnt be able to see for awhile and or use his u know what that he seems to be so interested in inticing little girls with.......this has made me so angry....ive been on edge towards everyone....i almost beat up a girl who threatened to hit my preg cuz and i know violence is not the answer to things but sometimes i just think we should be allowed to hit some of these crazy people out here that prey on our children and our families.....i need to go to the gym and box it out on a bag but i think id be sick for days after that cause my lil sick body cant handle that kind of stuff....maybe i could tape his picture to it...it would eb worth being bed ridden for a couple of days i think...lol....anyways just wanted to rant about this and let u guys know to keep ur eyes open....excuse my spelling its late and im tired...lol

I hope you calm down before you beat anyone up. I don't know how much the school can do if the teacher was calling your DD after she graduated and wasn't his student any more, although I guess they could use any excuse not to renew his contract. Technically he hasn't done anything illegal, but you are right, they should keep an eye on him since it seems he has exercised poor judgment. My DD was really friendly w/ her history teacher, who is about 25 and he even came to her graduation party, but it seems he knew how to keep the proper boundaries between teacher & students. Besides being her history teacher for 2 years, he was also the girls' track coach and an adviser to her church youth group, so they got to know each other very well. But he also has a girlfriend who was also a youth group adviser.
One of my co-workers (male) told me that when he was in high school, his art teacher asked him to stop by after school and she showed him nude drawings of herself that she had made. He said he just ran out of the room. However, my DH ended up having an affair w/ one of his female teachers. If the kind of stuff she did ever happened today, she would be in jail. He spent weekends w/ her and she even helped him buy a car. In one way, he thought it was cool that an older woman was interested in him, but I think he really has some emotional scars from it because she was really using him too and he was looking for affection that he wasn't getting at home from his parents.
I just read an article in our regional paper a couple of weeks ago. It talked about teachers who were passed around the system, never really getting in trouble. Maybe they'd said something inappropriate or a complaint had been made. Nothing had really been done about them, the school they were leaving would give them a glowing recommendation and allow them to leave unreprimanded just so they would get them off their hands. Passing the buck and allowing some other poor child to become victimized in some way.
Sad, that this is allowed to happen. If he's doing something inappropriate to an underage child, and he is in a position of authority, I'd go ahead and report it to the police, or Child Protective Services. Get someone with some real authority to check into things. They can do a background check on someone and see if an investigation is warranted. Then, when he becomes bold enough to try it with a student, or anyone underage, he's got something in the system already. It could never hurt. If you saw a neighbor speaking inappropriately to their child, you'd report it. It shouldn't really be any different. I would NOT stop at the school, especially after reading that article.
Sallie
p.s. Vent away. Sometimes I think stoning should be brought back for some offenses. Cut out some of the 15 million appeals that are allowed. Good grief, if you can't get it overturned in a couple of appeals go ahead and be done with it. I would hate to be innocent in jail, but sometimes bad things just happen. There are more people walking the street that are guilty, but released early because of overcrowding than there are innocent on death row, KWIM? Vent away!!!!
We had a teacher in our district who really was inappropriate with boundaries with the older girls a few years ago - he was probably 35 at the time, and did things like give the girls rides, hand out his cell number, etc.