Beach week

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Registered: 01-29-2004
Beach week
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Mon, 07-16-2007 - 10:45pm

I've posted about my DD and her boyfriend, and the fact that he went to beach week, and she did not. Her boyfriend is working tonight, so she went to the movies w/his best friend who is also one of her friends. She texted me and told me that the friend, in the course of conversation this evening, has let slip some things that went on at beach week which involved her boyfriend. She is upset, angry, hurt and betrayed. And most likely, has a right to be. I just feel....sad. I mean, the two of them have dated for a year and a half, and really for most of that, have gotten along so well. It's just sad when things have to wind down in this way. I feel sad for her, and sad for them. Wouldn't it be nice if kids could handle all this emotion and end their relationship w/o hurting each other (or in this case hurting HER) so badly? I know, I know....I sound terribly naive, and I'm not....I guess it's just wishful thinking. I just told her that I would respect her wishes, whatever she decides to do. Even though she is angry, I know she is so hurt. He really is a nice guy....he's just an 18 year old kid who isn't using his brain to make decisions. He's using other parts of his anatomy. :(

Nancy

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Registered: 02-14-2000
In reply to: nancyws119
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 9:49am
Hugs to your dd.
Pam
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Registered: 01-29-2004
In reply to: nancyws119
Tue, 07-17-2007 - 10:35pm
Pam, You know it's a funny thing. I KNOW that college will be such a new and wonderful environment for my DD. I did it myself, DD's brother tells her the same thing, as well as friends who have already gone off to college. But while we're still here....in the trenches so to speak....living through this transitional summer, it's hard to focus on that. BUT....I know we (she) will live through this summer....it's already half over....and I keep telling her that in six to 12 months, she'll look back at this summer having learned some difficult lessons, but she'll have such a different outlook on all of it. Right now she can't see that, but I have faith that she will several months up the road. Thanks, Nancy