Being a Mom can be so unnerving at times

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Being a Mom can be so unnerving at times
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Fri, 10-24-2003 - 1:53pm
Just when she was beginning to be likeable....lol...

I gave my 14 y/o permission to stay after school today with a friend at the public library. Then, when I got to work, I saw on my calendar that she had an orthodontist appt that she can walk to from school at 3PM. I called the school and left a message for her to go to her appt. Well, she just called me and told me that she's not going because I told her she could hang out afterschool with her friend. I told her she still could, after she gets her braces checked at 3. Well, she then told me that she's going over this other kid's (that I don't know) house afterschool and too bad on me and she's not even going to the orthos, etc. Hrrmmph! I really don't have much patience for this sort of stuff when I'm at work and told her simply that she's supposed to go to the orthos and that I wanted her to do that...she's welcome to walk over to the library afterwards and meet up with her friend but to please call me when she gets there so I know where to pick her up. I told her she is strictly forbidden to go to this new girlfriend's house as I've never met her or her parents, don't know where she lives, I've never even heard her name mentioned before! She became really pissed at me then and stated that she's going home and that, just to spite me, she's not going to the ortho - that I can make a new appt! Okay, so at this point, I lost what little patience I had and told her that if she didn't go to the ortho, her Halloween plans are cancelled - I said it was her choice but that she was the one who would have to live with the consequences of her actions. And then I hung up. So, now I don't even know what she's going to do.

Yesterday, she was so sweet, it was the first day of her very first period ever. I took her out for gourmet chocolate in celebration, we shared a few 'women' jokes to initiate her into the world of 'Little Women" but now she's being such a little b*tch!!! Eeek - Wahh, wahh, wahh...I hate being a mother sometimes. It just seems that once things start to settle in to a nice easy flow (no pun intended), something happens and mixed things up to make me crazy!

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Fri, 10-24-2003 - 2:07pm

You need a hug. . .(((H&R)))

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Fri, 10-24-2003 - 2:27pm
Ahhh - wouldn't it be nice if it would just BE as twoki said, once initiated into the 'world of women' they should BE responsible like one, LOL. My younger dd just turned 12 two weeks ago, and she started HER first real cycle a week before that. Blech. And I suppose I have to assume she's still going to act twelve. Double blechhhhhhhhhhh. LOL

Yes, you need a hug ... {{{{HUGS}}}}. HOpefully you'll go home later, have an angry dd sitting there because you've been so unreasonable to not allow her to go to someone's home you've never even heard of nor know where she lives, she'll sulk for awhile and then, in true 14 yo fashion, continue 'living in the moment' and some other moment will steal her attention - and mood - away ;-)

Have a great weekend ;-)

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Fri, 10-24-2003 - 2:51pm
No cycles around here, just mine and the testosterone cycle (whatever that is) but I can so relate. Did you see my post about my son's hair? If it's a good hair day, he's pleasant. If not, he's just like your dd. LOL!

Ellen

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Sat, 10-25-2003 - 9:37am
Trust me, it doesn't get any easier the older they get either! Here's a story similar to yours and my oldest dd is 16! She calls home asking if she can go out to eat after the soccer game, I say no she needs to come home; after bantering back and forth, she is totally ticked and says fine; I say drive carefully, and she says nope, I am driving fast and recklessly now. I say, ok, see you in a little bit and hang up! She comes in the house and looks absolutely exhausted (She left for school at 6:55, had school all day, practice from 3-6 and then went right to the soccer game and it is now 7:45 p.m.). I took one look at her, and she has this pouty face and looks like she is ready to cry! Not the angry girl she was 10 minutes before and it was like our exchange never took place ~~ she was happy to be home!!!

I just talk to myself ALOT and hopefully it's not out loud because with 2 teens (16 & almost 14) it's like a roller coaster around here on a daily, if not hourly, basis! LOL

Cindy

~ * Cindy * ~

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Sat, 10-25-2003 - 2:13pm
hugs! methinks you should go back to that gourmet choc place and get some for YOU!!!!
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Mon, 10-27-2003 - 10:29am
hmmm....first period....moody...moodswings....chocolate....I've had 30 years of this same routine. Why be surprised?

However, you need hugs and chocolate. I need someone to tell me it's OK for me to be jealous that my DD's new social life is better than mine (she's 13).

Hey, now I know why MY mother was so moody sometimes!

Have a good day.

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Mon, 10-27-2003 - 11:24am
Aaaaahhhhh, that's better; it's MOnday and she's in school....lol. Well, surprise surprise, she went to the ortho and called me to pick her up so she could go home! She got orange and black wires for Halloween and spent the evening with H and me and went to bed early. Jeesh! The next day she asked if she could hang out with the girl no one knows and I said I'd like to meet her mom. I did, and it was all good! She went to a Halloween parade with them and had fun, and didn't even ask to sleep over her house - she came straight home by 9:30 PM!! I am in awe.

Thank you all so much for your support - and I did get that chocolate **double time all weekend**

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Mon, 10-27-2003 - 10:16pm
I'm glad things are better at your house! Life with teens is like a crazy roller coaster at times, isn't it? :-) My DD is 12 and has been doing the mood swing thing since January, even though she got her first period in June. One day I sat her down and said something like "I hate to tell you this, but you're going to be living with these horomone surges for a very long time, every woman does. Somehow you have to learn to control things a little better, just so you're happier with life. We all go through this, and it's something we all have to learn." (This conversation came when she was on an up.) Seems to have helped some, she's been a whole lot more even tempered the past 3 months - or at least tries to be. I think it helped her to hear that she's not the only one in the world that feels like that every month.
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Tue, 10-28-2003 - 8:55am
Good idea - Hmmm...talking to her. I think I'll try that! lol
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Sun, 11-23-2003 - 8:09pm
"Now go to the school and pull her out early for that orth appointment and escort her there."

Exactally and when the braces are adjusted don't give her tylenol for the pain...when she asks why...tell her you don't FEEL like it and it's too bad on her.