Birthday plans collapsing
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| Thu, 07-05-2007 - 4:08pm |
My poor DD - as per the previous post - her birthday is Saturday. She invited four friends to come over for Brunch - and got excited about cooking a fancy meal for them. (A fifth friend, her bff, is traveling with her mother out of the country). One friend "facebooked" yesterday that she's going away with her family, another initially facebooked that she could come, but then re-facebooked today that she can't come. DD called me at work in tears - it's hard to feel festive about just two friends coming, and "no one cares about me!" - I feel so bad for her. I think part of the problem is the relationships between these other girls and their parents - I would bet that they didn't tell their parents about L's party until the last minute, and don't have the relationship that would allow negotiation (e.g., "can I go for just a little while?"). But, I can't do anything about those families. Now I just have to scramble for other ways to make the day special.
My parents are planning to come for an overnight - thank goodness I insisted on that (and hoping there're no last minute problems for them) - but dinner with grandparents is not the same as a ***16th Birthday** with friends.
My DD needs friends who are better supports for her - and can match what a great friend she is for them - thank goodness for her one friend 'S' who is both *sane* and *consistent* and a great loyal friend.
On a related note - I just bought an official t-shirt from the Live Earth concert (thanks to the poster who reminded me of that). L is very into environmental stuff, and the t-shirt has a giant 7-7-07 on it! It costs a fortune and has to be shipped from England, but she'll adore it!
Oh, and not-for-nothin, how come no one calls on the phone anymore? My DD and her friends just use Facebook, and it seems like such an indirect and difficult way to communicat.
Sue

Oh I'm so sorry! I think its something about this time of year as so many families go away on vacation. My dd had a friend who's birthday suffered the same fate this past week ie too many people having to drop out due to family or work commitments. But that girl went ahead with fewer kids and they had a nice time anyway.
My dd's sweet 16 is in the fall and we are trying to find a creative way for her to celebrate with her friends. There will be the standard family party but she wants something special with the girls. We have alot of ideas but just don't know how to pull them together, exactly so we are working through some stuff while I am on vacation.
As for the facebook thing -- yeah I know what you mean! They never use the PHONE anymore!
i feel for you ...
my daughter often makes plans that fall through because kids don't get their parent's permission or parents plan things because they don't know their kids have a special event to attend and the kid's haven't told the parents.... Not everyone seems to have the communication that I have with my child; It always upsets me when other parents don't think about the needs of their kids and the other kids in their children's lives...
My son - turning 6 - has a birthday party planned for next weekend and we invited every kid in his class before the end of the school year. I have gotten exactly one phone call from one parent in his class... I will end up having to call them all prior to the party and can't buy any favors until I have numbers... It's so aggravating.
My daughter's birthday is at the end of the month and she's planning to have a sleepover but nothing too spectacular in terms of planning... so she will plan it around her friend's availability because she wants to be sure to include everyone she can.
Good luck!
Rachel
For some, birthday's just don't work so well..... my dd's birthday is December.
Rachel...