Brave DD - and she's a matchmaker LOL

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Registered: 03-26-2003
Brave DD - and she's a matchmaker LOL
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Tue, 11-11-2003 - 12:47pm
This weekend, my daughter did two very brave things. She phoned a boy she likes and invited him to her school's Sadie Hawkins dance and then she phoned another boy she likes (family friend - long-term crush)and invited him to her school's Christmas Ball in December.

The first boy turned her down. I really do think it was a valid reason - last football game of the season and its accompanying family tailgate party and he's on the JV football team, but who knows. Anyway, she handled it well and wasn't all down in the dumps about it, which I was thankful for. The second boy is going to call her back tomorrow after he speaks to his coach to make sure he's free. I told her to keep a stiff upper lip again, though, since I know from his mother (one of my best friends) that he "hates to dance", also he's VERY shy. So we'll see. Usually the boys she likes are the really busy types with lots of sports and tough academics, so I think the "I'm busy" potential is high and the unfortunate thing is it leaves the girl always wondering if they just made an excuse. Such is life.

This is the only kind of 1:1 dating that my daughter is allowed to do AND they will have to go with a group of other kids, but I feel like there isn't much they can do wrong when we, the parents, have to drop them off and pick them up, plus the functions are monitored like hawks by the teachers at the school.

Anyway, DD has successfully played matchmaker with about three of her girlfriends in introducing them to boys and getting it so THEY have partners for these functions. Now I just hope she doesn't end up too disappointed herself!

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Wed, 11-12-2003 - 9:27am
Let us know what the boy said about the formal - I hope he agrees to go with her.


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Fri, 11-14-2003 - 2:28pm
Thanks, Pam,

Well - ugh! The second boy says he can't go either. Apparently, there's a big basketball game against the cross-town rival the night of the formal and he's on the team. She wasn't in the greatest mood last night when he called and told her this, but I have to say that I marvel at her perseverance and ability to not let it get to her self-esteem - at least not obviously so!

Since the school allows it, she is going stag with her gf's to the Sadie Hawkins tonight. Actually, another boy asked her outright if she'd go with him (even though its Sadie Hawkins), but she claims he played a lot of games going back and forth between her and one of her close friends trying to get one of them to go with him so they're both disgusted with him and heavily into their "sisters before misters" mode, LOL!

She's still got a few in mind for her formal in December, unbelievably! But, she loves the excitement of these events and really just wants the excuse to wear this great dress she's found and enjoy the pageantry of the evening. I keep telling her that we should live in the South and she could do all that debutante stuff since she enjoys this all so much!

Take care and thanks!